katie978
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Joined: 7/21/2007 Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 After I discovered my submissive side, I posted a profile on collarme, and sat back to see what would happen. I did more or less the same thing. I'm not a big one for group gatherings like munches (since the general clientele seems to be much older), and I don't think clubs are a particularly good place to do anything, especially not learn about bdsm. So I turned to the friend of lonely introverts everywhere: the internet. It's chock full of mostly good information, some reasonably intelligent chatting, and potential dates. I bought a few books, but most everything I learned about BDSM, I found via the interwebs. Eventually, I found an awesome dom, and here I am, 9 months after I started my search, pretty fully entrenched in the "BDSM lifestyle". Judging by your questions, it seems like you might be more into the group gatherings? As far as "where to go", you can try a local munch, a convetion, or a kinky-themed nightclub. I couldn't tell you who to know, really. If you're going to a munch, you could e-mail the leaders of the group, they would make sure you at least knew someone there. They would also make sure no less than savory folks took advantage of your naivity (unless you wanted them to!) Getting involved in a local group via a munch would also be the way to get invitations to semi-private play parties, if that's what you're into. What was the experience on your first time...For me, BDSM is pretty much exactly like normal dating, so my first experience was nervously drinking coffee with some guy. It was completely vanilla (and hazelnut...couldn't resist). If you're looking to attend a play party or a fetish club, your first experience might be vastly different. Good luck. Make sure you read and follow all the safety information about meeting people and bdsm in general. I also suggest you let someone know you're into it, whether it be a real-life friend or an online kinky one, so they can act as the voice of reason or a safecall.
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