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mslecuir -> Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 12:52:07 PM)
TAKE HEED! A very disturbing news story here in Buffalo. A young woman was murdered last year, the man who killed her was caught and the trial was today. He was found guilty and was sentenced to 20 years in prison. The only thing that was previously mentioned was that the young woman was an "escort of some sort". Today at the trial it came out that some sort of BDSM was involved and the woman was tortured and then killed. Whatever happened, this should serve as a wake up call for anyone meeting with another for the purpose of power exchange of any type. Everyone needs to take special care that they are safe and will stay that way. Do NOT under any circumstances agree to any exchange before you really get to know one another. The best way to do this is to join your local BDSM group and play there. You can NEVER be too careful. Full story below... BUFFALO, N.Y. - A Buffalo man learned his fate Wednesday for the murder of an escort last fall. The judge sentenced K.... B..... to the maximum sentence under manslaughter in the first degree. Immediately after the sentencing, friends and family of J..... F..... comforted each other outside of a State Supreme Court room. The man, who's name they wouldn't utter in court, only to call him murderer, was sentenced to 20 years in prison. In October of 2007, the 39-year-old admitted to suffocating 24-year-old. It happened inside a North Street apartment building. In the court room Wednesday, J.F's sister read a statement on behalf of the family. "We will never see that sparkle in her eye, we will never recover from the pain," her sister said. And according to B..., neither will he. He apologized and admitted his actions were unforgivable. His attorney described his actions as engaging in risky behavior. B.....'s attorney J.... T....... said, "Mrs. F..... went to his apartment as an escort to engage in bondage activity. It's unpleasant to say, but that's exactly what happened." One arresting officer at the scene that night described it as a gruesome homicide that involved torture. There is no word yet on whether B.... plans to appeal the sentencing.

KatyLied -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 12:56:23 PM)
I'm curious as to why you did not provide a link with your post.

nohalo -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 1:05:08 PM)
http://www.buffalonews.com/258/story/303033.html

BBWnNC72 -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 1:09:33 PM)
i learned my lesson the hard way about meeting people. i am glad i am here today. i fallow "rules" 1. chat online or the phone till both are comfy. 2. meet in a VERY PUBLIC place when both are comfy 3. meet again in public and again and again 4. when i am comfy, i want to see where they live, this is because i do not want to be the "other", if they can't allow me this and do not have a good reason RED FLAG. i do understand kids, living with family other then a wife who doesn't know. 5. when i am comfy, i let them come to my house. i have only let two come to my home and one is a dear friend, the other my Dominant. 6. ALWAYS have a safe call, include: where you are going, with whom you are going to be with, how long you will be gone. i also would let the person i was going to be with know i have a safe call and what time i was expected to call and check in.

KatyLied -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 1:31:26 PM)
Thank you for the link. Did you notice that he was a previous sex offender.

nohalo -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 1:40:48 PM)
I did. Gives me hope, once again, that what goes around, comes around.

mslecuir -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 3:00:24 PM)
Thanks for providing the link... I just wanted to raise awareness. Ms Le Cuir

katie978 -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/25/2008 4:36:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nohalo I did. Gives me hope, once again, that what goes around, comes around. Uh...yeah, but he killed someone before it "came around"... Come on, folks, at least google your potentials to make sure they don't come up in the sex offender registry.

sub4hire -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/26/2008 7:40:34 AM)
This is the problem you are on a BDSM site. One where even the new are reading..which makes them smarter than most new people. You need to reach the truly new with the article. That way you could perhaps save a life or two. How do you do that?

Maya2001 -> RE: Meeting others SAFELY! (3/26/2008 9:56:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: katie978 quote: ORIGINAL: nohalo I did. Gives me hope, once again, that what goes around, comes around. Uh...yeah, but he killed someone before it "came around"... Come on, folks, at least google your potentials to make sure they don't come up in the sex offender registry. Works great if meeting someone from the US ..... you can even dig around in state country court records online to see if they have other types of convictions, I have done this when meeting with one Dom that flew in from NC, was really amazed at how much info on a person can be obtained online and how many sources can be checked. In his case his ex wife still showed as living at the same residence on Whitepages so I asked if he could provide proof of some sort I did not suspect he was lying but having proof just adds extra comfort. Problem is that not all countries have freedoms to access personal information online and it will not do you any good if the person does not provide their real name to you... In my case I did ask for some proof of documentation that they are who they say they are, a bonus with webcams is you can see who you are talking have them show you documentation to proof their name whether a bill owing or DL etc

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