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What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:13:44 PM

subsnow

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If a man told you that he was sexually aroused by a woman in diapers, what would your first reaction be? What is your first thought?

Do you accept it as just another fetish? Are you ok with it? Do you just shrug and move on?
......or.......
Do warning bells start ringing? Do you think pedophile? Are you disgusted? Do you think "FREAK"?

What about a girl who enjoys being a baby?

I'm going to be on a tv show soon to talk about what it's like to be an adult baby. There are already a couple of clips from the show floating around the internet. Most of the feedback that I've read has been negative. I'm wondering if the BDSM community (which I'm also a part of) has a different opinion than the general public. Here are a couple of the links:
http://link.brightcove.com/services/link/bcpid296756391/bclid301793942/bctid1453516500
http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/267568/

(p.s. I'm not trying to advertise. I'm really looking for honest opinions here.)

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:16:15 PM

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Definitely not my kink, but if it's what turns your crank, fill yer boots.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:27:48 PM

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You have every right to enjoy any sort of activity that makes you happy. I mentioned earlier, "if you want to dress up like a hobbit and dance on a pile of headless rubber duckies in a monsoon while singing Micheal Jackson tunes, you get on with your bad self."

Having said that, the moment you do it in public, or solicit strangers opinion on such activities, be prepared to be criticized, ridiculed, insulted, embarrassed, put down, slandered, laughed at, pissed on, and pissed off. I don't have to be nice to you, just because you like wearing a diaper. That probably means we're not going to be friends. I'm fine with that.

Why worry about what the rest of the internet BDSM community thinks about your kink in the first place?

So, I'm fine with people who like to be ABs. I personally think it's kind of an icky fetish lumped it in with scat, forced enemas, and a handful of activities that violate the TOS of this site, so I'm not allowed to mention here. I don't think ABs are horrible, wretched pedophiles for what they like, but neither do I leap with joy at the chance to read or discuss diaper manufacturers.

I like some things that are clearly fringe, and if I were to list them in the mainstream BDSM community, I'd expect to receive a lot of negative attention. I'm fine with that. I'm also not a masochist, and have no interest in exposing myself to that sort of ridicule, or to have to try and justify what I like. I'm justified because I like what I like, and it's always with consenting adults. Are you genuinely in trying to understand why the general population is anti-AdultBaby?

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:33:16 PM

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yeah, I'd have to agree with littlebit...

There are some kinks that totally wierd me out (feet stuff for instance), but hey.. I just don't have to participate. I don't hold it against those who do enjoy it, though.

I experimented once with the AB thing... my initial thought was more along the lines of.. hmm, ok -interesting. Pedophilia never crossed my mind. after trying it, I decided it wasn't for me.

Sorry, kind of a disjointed post..I'm at work and sem-distracted..LOL

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:33:25 PM

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I'm not bothered by it, but I am a very strange fellow.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:33:33 PM

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I know some AB's, and they know enough to not discuss their kink around me. My Christian friends don't discuss religion with me, and so on. It's a free universe, and you have every right to enjoy your own kink in privacy and peace. Do I consider it an Icky Kink? Yes. Are you icky for wanting to participate? NO.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:35:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

You have every right to enjoy any sort of activity that makes you happy. I mentioned earlier, "if you want to dress up like a hobbit and dance on a pile of headless rubber duckies in a monsoon while singing Micheal Jackson tunes, you get on with your bad self."

Having said that, the moment you do it in public, or solicit strangers opinion on such activities, be prepared to be criticized, ridiculed, insulted, embarrassed, put down, slandered, laughed at, pissed on, and pissed off. I don't have to be nice to you, just because you like wearing a diaper. That probably means we're not going to be friends. I'm fine with that.

Why worry about what the rest of the internet BDSM community thinks about your kink in the first place?

...edited by Her Lord for brevity in His own post...
Stephan

Uuuhhh, I might be a little scareded. But I like the creativity. I'ld be willing to bet you have some seriously intense sex.

I knew there was something about the way you think that I liked. (wasn't sure about the red)

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:36:03 PM

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i'm not into the whole "baby" thing, but i do occasionally get indulged by my Daddy in some semi-age regression (like coloring, eating cotton candy with him and generally getting to feel little and safe and warm with him)

That being said, i feel really awful for the couple (you and your Daddy) on the video shown, i looked at the links you provided and the second one, OMG the comments from all of the people were just horrible..

it's not my thing, but in a certain way there is some of that in me, just a bit older, and i get how being little feels.

Edited to add: i don't think it reeks of any latent child abuse type of desires...it's just something different that some ppl don'tget.

EDITED AGAIN to add: Sorry, i didn't look at your profile first and realize that you were meaning that ya'll were the ones in the video, i thought that you were giving an example as to what you would be doing..........So i edited above to show that.

< Message edited by daddyncherry -- 3/25/2008 8:29:38 PM >

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:39:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subsnow
If a man told you that he was sexually aroused by a woman in diapers, what would your first reaction be? What is your first thought?

OK

quote:

Do you accept it as just another fetish? Are you ok with it? Do you just shrug and move on?
......or.......
Do warning bells start ringing? Do you think pedophile? Are you disgusted? Do you think "FREAK"?

What about a girl who enjoys being a baby?

For me it's another kink- a lot more comfy and easier than corset wearing :)

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< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 3/25/2008 7:41:11 PM >

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:44:02 PM

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I would specifically go with the Mkiyk answer and move along. Since neither attract Me, not the female sub, nor the diapers, it wouldn't get much notice in My book.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:51:48 PM

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I don't see it as pedophilia. He is talking about a woman, not a baby, so I see it as a harmless kink.

Sometimes their seems to be almost a pecking order of kinds, adult diapers being about the lowest rung with sissification coming in close. Scat play, which may or may not be related to diaper play, is also frowned upon by many.

In my mind, what makes two consulting adults happy and doesn't harm anyone else is just good fun. However, I am afraid that you may have a hard time running into very many open minded people about this. The more informed they are the less willing they will be to misunderstand it.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 7:56:23 PM

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I just shrug and move on but I do that with a lot of activities that are otherwise quite popular in BDSM. It's not my bag but I don't try to figure out why something trips someone else's trigger. I see the adult baby thing as a general fetish much like cross dressing. I have never really understood what either of them has to do with BDSM. It sometimes seems like they are orphan fetishes that just get lumped in with BDSM for lack of any other place to put them.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:04:59 PM

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When someone mentions diapers, immediately I think of DIRTY diapers. As a person who has been a caregiver to an incapacitated adult, I associate diapers with, well, a mess! Not fun, certainly not sexy.

What's cool about being a baby? Well, plenty. A baby is pretty much surrounded by slaves who attend to its every need, play with it, comfort it, feed it, and generally keep it happy. Looking back from the realm of adult responsibilities, that can seem pleasant, I suppose.

Do I get it? Not at all. And honestly, I don't care to. I don't have to understand something fully to recognize that it is not harmful, and that it's Fine For Other People.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:05:38 PM

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I'm afraid my very first reaction would be to wrinkle my nose. But then I'd realize that if that turns him on, and if the woman involved is willing to oblige, then that's up to them. There are several BDSM-related activities that do not appeal to me, but they appeal to some.

If the people involved in the project are willing to do this in front of others (including vanilla-type folks?), they have a lot more intestinal fortitude than I have.

Go for it; do your thing; if it makes you happy, that's all that matters.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:20:07 PM

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My first reaction would be "well, if thats what gets him going, that's fine by me' as long as he understood that it isnt anything that does anything for me, we'd get along fine, as I'm sure that some of my kinks would probably make him screw up his nose and roll his eyes.

Whatever floats your boat and is done consentually, go for it.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:21:31 PM

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my reaction? hell yeah!

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:22:04 PM

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My first reaction would be "huh"... "ok".. and then "to each his/her own".

I actually had this sort of reaction when reading a recent thread on diapering. I have no interest in the fetish myself, but found it an interesting read - it was something I'd never thought of and never realized was a kink. I don't see it as pedophilia.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:25:55 PM

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Wow, you have lots of guts to get on t.v. and let your fetish be known to the world...anyone gets on you for it, I have your back ;)

Diaper/Infant/Daddy play is NOT my thing. I'm turned off by it, but I don't judge others for it. I just don't do it...and thats all anybody really needs to worry about. If it's not what your into...then don't do it, but don't bitch at somone for what they enjoy.

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:28:46 PM

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PLEASE! I am soooo sck of people who think THIER brand of kink is better than MY brand of kink.
I agree with Stephan...whatever floats ones boat and doesnt harm anyone...

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RE: What's your first reaction? - 3/25/2008 8:28:47 PM

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To me it is a kink I dont understand . .... but then it is just one of many .... I dont understand nor do I wish to participate in it ...but dont think that others should not if it is what they enjoy...

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