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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
but sending someone an email on here is a different sort of thing than some start-up dot-com getting hold of an email list and spamming everyone on Yahoo! in hopes of getting that one important sale.

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wondering why the person just deleted the email and didn't even bother to bloody open it after I spent a good, damned chunk of time composing the letter. Is it wrong to wonder why? Is it wrong to ask the question out loud? I don't think so. Perhaps, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the whole lot of us feeling varying levels of frustration or whatever...I dunno.

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One of the more disappointing things about the boards, though, has been how very, very often people post questions and concerns, legitimately seeking learning, only to get responses so far removed from their original topic,

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
but sending someone an email on here is a different sort of thing than some start-up dot-com getting hold of an email list and spamming everyone on Yahoo! in hopes of getting that one important sale.

Would it surprise you to know that many of us do get spammed with the same email from the same person over and over? I have two accounts here. I got the exact opening email, same words, verbatim from the same guy within 2 days of signing up. It is trying to get that sale!

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wondering why the person just deleted the email and didn't even bother to bloody open it after I spent a good, damned chunk of time composing the letter. Is it wrong to wonder why? Is it wrong to ask the question out loud? I don't think so. Perhaps, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the whole lot of us feeling varying levels of frustration or whatever...I dunno.

Yes it can be frustrating to have an email go unanswered. LOL but, I will just mention that if it is deleted unread there is no way to tell how many days it took that person to compose it. Perhaps it might be a better idea to make less of an effort on a first time proposal. That way when it is shot down your day is not ruined. My point is that even though this is a social networking site, people have MANY reasons for not answering. Why is it so hard to accept that without feeling it is a personal assault? In general I don't answer people who live outside of my immediate area, but there are other reasons. They don't always have to be about the writer. It might be that the person being written to has other things going on.
I see these type of posts and I want to send them a bumpersticker.
"YES it is all about ME!" because clearly in their world everything should be.

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One of the more disappointing things about the boards, though, has been how very, very often people post questions and concerns, legitimately seeking learning, only to get responses so far removed from their original topic,

As stated over and over by many posters... a no answer, a delete unread IS an answer. It is simply one that many find unacceptable.

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

It's amazing to me how many people have posted but have not managed to address the OP's original question. As I understand it, PrimeVector was talking about FIRST TIME contact ONLY and he's said that a couple of times...and he's talking about a scenario where he has taken MUCH time to compose a thoughtful, respectful letter only to get it deleted not once, but twice unread...and his nickname is not 9inchcock or slave2yourpussy or any other outrageous name some folks have come up with...Nor is he challenging anyones' RIGHT to do with their inbox as they please...he's simply wanting to understand why folks do this, hopefully, so he can learn from the experience. The only thing I've read so far that comes close to a viable explanation is the filter feature...which I had forgotten about because I don't use it anymore...and that would explain why some emails get deleted unread. But 3 pages of comments along the lines of, "I delete any potentially rude emails esp if their screennames are overly suggestive" and "it's my inbox, I'll delete if I want to..." How does that address the man's legitimate question?

MNN

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

No, you're really not.  Not the way you're thinking.  You don't have to have a visible profile on the other side.

Cali

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ORIGINAL: HerLord

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

No, you're really not.  Not the way you're thinking.  You don't have to have a visible profile on the other side.

Cali

You're right as usual... But I NEVER said anything about the REQUIRED profile being visable. You ARE required to have one, visible or not.

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
FIRST TIME ONLY emails send to someone...Yes, I know all about the repeat emails...I've gotten those too...if the OP was talking about this sort of situation, your point would be well-taken.

trying to make sense out of it...

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Did I say anything about it not being a first time email?
I don't believe I did. What I did say was that many of us DO get bombarded by so much that we just don't want to read it. I don't care if it is first, ninth, what ever.
He is a victim of people's choice to answer or not.
And those people may not care that he spent 9 hours on his email, or 30 seconds.
Unread it is all the same thing. First, second, what ever.
There is no way to tell how long, how much effort, ect a person takes if you don't read it.
Unless you are psychic.
I am saying it is their choice for whatever reason not to read.
He asked why. I answered. Because they chose to delete.
That is as much sense out of it as I could muster.
LOL what I can't understand is why people don't get that.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
FIRST TIME ONLY emails send to someone...Yes, I know all about the repeat emails...I've gotten those too...if the OP was talking about this sort of situation, your point would be well-taken.

trying to make sense out of it...

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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

Domi, dude, the thread's 2 years old!