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RE: Are you or aren't you? - 3/30/2008 9:59:04 AM

AS11

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It’s not about embracing what one wants, it’s about quality, those who venture and don’t find the skill and expertise measuring up to their requirements simply don’t repeat a filed venture.

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RE: Are you or aren't you? - 3/30/2008 10:09:51 AM

LydiaLuv

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question - why do you presume that it's solely the submissive running away? from my experience i've had seen the dominants running away and disappearing.

What about the doms? The ones that become your friend too and run after they set your heart and soul in gear. The ones that send your cards for every occasion and call and write everyday. Then pronounce friends, like friend with benefits. What's that all about?

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RE: Are you or aren't you? - 3/30/2008 10:22:15 AM

metalmiss

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Finding what you truely want and seek is a very scary thing..

When i found my Master, thing's moved so quickly (i have lived with Him literally since the day we met) when things began to settle in my head, i was confronted with an overwhelming urge to turn my back and run away.. Even though He is exactly what i have been searching for all of my adult life. It took alot of concious effort to get past that.

My thoughts on this are that perhaps its a defense reflex..
So long searching for something this intense, i made alot of mistakes along the way as we all do which left me with countless insecurities.. So when i found it and the time came to give everything of myself to Him completely they took over, i hestitated.. stalled.. i couldn't believe in myself that i was even worthy of His attention.. that it was all be too good to be true.. that i must definately be wrong somewhere.. i must be missing something.. He will hurt me just like the last one did.. Hence i associate my urge to pull away with my own personal insecurity. Finding what i had been looking for all this time almost scared me away from the very thing that has made me so happy & complete.

Another way of looking at this could be that some submissive's out there might just enjoy the "thrill of the chase"?

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RE: Are you or aren't you? - 3/30/2008 10:45:01 AM

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Maybe it's as simple as we submissives are being charged with something that is not in our nature. You know the old adage, "If at first you fail try again". I can't help but think that takes a personality that doesn't take no for an answer, which is diametrically opposed to who I am or believe myself to be.

One of the fundamental rules I apply is, I make contract, she answers and from that point I believe it should be a one to one exchange. As soon as she stops, I don't go any further, only because, if for whatever reason she is no longer interested right or wrong, it is not my place to impose or "Be in her face". Another is the words "I was just". This is another indicator to me, that she is being polite enough to respond, but does not want further contact.

I realize full well we all respond to things because of life experiences, but I can't help but think our personality type (submissive) should be lead, controlled, guided, not unlike training a dog. To be successful, there needs to be consistency and very clear easy to understand parameters.

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RE: Are you or aren't you? - 3/30/2008 5:04:18 PM

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it took me a bit to admit to myself what i am and what i wanted some might have a harder time doing it. it would be a lot better if we all could be honest with ourselves.

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