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RE: Your orientation - 3/30/2008 12:25:49 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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Status: offline 		I've always been... let's say, "open-minded."  Hell, my first kiss was from a girl!  And I had my first sexual experience with a girl long before my first with a guy... all of this, of course, before I really started getting into BDSM.  I've never looked at a person's gender in a relationship, I just like pretty people, whether they be male, female, TS/TG, or anything else.

So BDSM never did anything, really, to "cement" that, just to accentuate it.

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RE: Your orientation - 3/30/2008 3:54:52 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor
These are just a few of the many reasons I admire you, your approach to this life ans your approach to life in general (from what you share here at least).


Ha! You're SO snowed! *giggle*

Thank you for you words.

A big dose of me: The same ID on LJ.

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RE: Your orientation - 3/30/2008 4:49:52 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		Its expanded my orientation, although my LT will almost always be with women -- that said,  I learned a long time ago to forget about that word "never" ...

who knows.. I've changed so much over the last ten years, I can only guess how the next ten will go

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RE: Your orientation - 3/31/2008 3:07:07 PM   
MistressOfGa


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Did this WIITWD solidify, change or expand your sexual orientation? Does that impacy who may be your LTR selection versus a passing relationship?
 

It didn't expand it, but it sure opened my mind to more possibilities. But then again, I have been doing this since 19 <shrugs> I think that I would have been more closed minded with regards to anyones sexual orientation had I not been exposed to it in my early life. God I love what we do! :)

MoGa

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RE: Your orientation - 3/31/2008 8:40:06 PM   
RumpusParable


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Did this WIITWD solidify, change or expand your sexual orientation? Does that impacy who may be your LTR selection versus a passing relationship?
 


Neither, really. 

My sexual orientation has always just been what it is:  I'm adventurous, in almost all directions.

The only effect BDSM/PE interest has had in my relationships is... well, just, as with other things that are *much* more an issue in making a match, part of finding someone who is okay with me being me.  I'm a dominant who prefers dominant romantic partners, in romance and sex I like to have an equal power balance.  The only relationships that BDSM/PE has a lot of shaping of is relationships of those specific types.

My interest in WIITWD doesn't have much to do with how I have chosen romantic partners... it really only applies to who I choose for a sub/slave.  And then I'm pretty flexible.  I'm happy to enjoy a wide variety of interactions, be they long term, short term, play only, service only, exploring only specific interests, barely knowing one another or close personal friends.

I just love to experience and learn, so I'm pretty open to what life brings my way.



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RE: Your orientation - 3/31/2008 8:56:07 PM   
pupofMoGa


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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Did this WIITWD solidify, change or expand your sexual orientation? Does that impacy who may be your LTR selection versus a passing relationship?
 

It didn't expand it, but it sure opened my mind to more possibilities. But then again, I have been doing this since 19 <shrugs> I think that I would have been more closed minded with regards to anyones sexual orientation had I not been exposed to it in my early life. God I love what we do! :)

MoGa


When Mistress and i spoke about this thread, we realised that we were just alike in that we started WIITWD earlyin life. I couldnt imagine how closed minded i would be if Mistress had never introduced me to the lifestyle. With Mistress by my side, the possibilities of our sexuality are limitless. Truely there is a heaven on Earth and i am porud to serve Her. Thank You Mistress for everything You have taught me and introduced me to, i love You and await Your return to me.

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RE: Your orientation - 3/31/2008 9:02:45 PM   
hardbodysub


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Status: offline 		Hasn't changed it one iota.

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RE: Your orientation - 4/1/2008 6:18:31 PM   
Reigna


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Status: offline 		I am a lifelong, habitual heterosexual, probably about a 98 on the Kinsey scale, and have been since I was a tiny little girl fantasizing about kidnapping my preschool boyfriend. The only thing different today is that now I have a mildly (~30%) transgendered sub, and sometimes we play mindfucks on the theme that he's actually female. I still like me some boy parts, though; and after all this time, that's not likely to change.

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RE: Your orientation - 4/1/2008 7:42:39 PM   
MamaDomme1


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Did this WIITWD solidify, change or expand your sexual orientation? Does that impacy who may be your LTR selection versus a passing relationship?
 


First, I wish to thank you for another wonderful question to muse, Lady Hathor!

WIITWD had nothing at all to do with my orientation at the beginning, nor does it now.  I experimented with  females when I was a pre-teen and teen but never in a BDSM way until I was in my late teens.  Males, on the other hand, I was pretty much always Dominant with.  It grew in variety with each passing year.

As for LTRs in my life-- I have had a couple of long-lasting and very beautiful LTRs with females.  They ended due to no fault of either one of us, it was just time to move on.  My LTRs with males in my life have never lasted as long as the ones with females.

I consider myself *straight* (it's on my profile that way) simply because I do not search out a particular sex of a person.  I seek to find mutual interests in the soul of a person, and the soul has no sex, no race, no creed and no color.  When I love a person, I love the soul of that person.

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RE: Your orientation - 4/1/2008 7:53:03 PM   
Kirren


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Did this WIITWD solidify, change or expand your sexual orientation? Does that impacy who may be your LTR selection versus a passing relationship?
 


I have always been bi curious, and then bi, tho My first experience was a nightmare...and I wont go into it...cos you will flip out and laugh...but when I started working on My Domme side...I found that it made it easier to persue women, and to find what I was looking for exactly...and then it gave Me confidence in the bedroom with women that My first experience made almost non existant.

It doesnt have any bearing on My LTR, as I was married when I collared My kitten, tho I feel it has solidified My LTR with D to an extent that He now understands My urges and My thoughts a bit differently.


I think that made sense...did it make sense to you all?

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RE: Your orientation - 4/1/2008 11:40:52 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		My sexual orientation?  No.  To quote a dear friend, "my compass [still] points to dick."

My "orientation" to what types of men I enjoy?  Yes.  I used to solely be attracted to men who were tall, typically masculine in attitude, and would have been uncomfortable expressing my wants and desires around a small-cocked man.  Now what I am attracted to is much broader.  I've played a few times with feminizing a man (something I would have found off my radar 5 years ago).

MSS

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RE: Your orientation - 4/1/2008 11:51:00 PM   
littlesarbonn


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ORIGINAL: chezzy52

You may consider this bragging but i lived every man's fantasy at the ripe old age of 19.Not one not two but three women in bed at one time and of course they were all over each other as well.Then about 5 weeks later,i was introduced to BDSM by a Pro Domme for my 20th birthday and the latter continued on in a non-professional relationship as i was overly eager to be a part of this lifestyle.She of course was nothing more than a friend but she couldn't turn down someone who was so passionate about wanting to learn and know about this thing that was in the back of my mind for a long time but had no clue what it was.The nice thing is i am still learning..so to answer the question...how could i be anything else but straight after those two episodes in my life??Oh and to clarify...i am a one woman man.You lose perspective when you have three pairs of protuberances shaking in your face but at the time it happened you think...hey all that Hustler baloney is true.


Yeah, I had something really similar. I don't like to brag either, but once, when I was about 13, a girl let me hold her hand. For a WHOLE FIVE SECONDS! And then another time, I shared an ice cream cone with a girl from down the street. Well, actually, I bought the ice cream cone, took a bite and then this girl came over, saw I was enjoying the ice cream cone, beat me up and then stole my ice cream cone. So I guess that counts as sharing! Wow, the life I've lived. I'd write a book if I could just learn to write.


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RE: Your orientation - 4/2/2008 1:15:04 AM   
chezzy52


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RE: Your orientation - 4/2/2008 4:57:45 AM   
MissLily


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Status: offline 		Hmmmm good question..... I'm afraid I'm hopelesly strait.... BUT when I first started, I would not even consider Dominating a girl, but now, the thought cosses My mind sometimes, but I very much doubt it will ever happen. I'm just not attracted to girls....

I wonder if it had any effect on My nilla life... I'm a very accepting person and difference doesn't scare Me. I think I've been like this ever since I started to mature. So am I accepting because wiitwd or am I into all this because I'm accepting and allowed Myself to explore it? A little bit of both perhaps?

Acting on My impulses has had some effects on My nilla life though. I'm just more confident, empowered, and sure don't take any shit from anybody. Then again, I never did....

Miss Lily

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