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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 7:10:41 AM

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 7:27:57 AM

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I've never had the need to, often I don't have the time either.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 7:45:03 AM

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OK, here's the thing.

I have emailed interesting-sounding Doms. I know they've read the email. I know they've perved me. But they just don't even bother to respond to my email. Not even to say, "Thanks but no thanks." So why bother?

I keep a journal - not daily, but when something interesting happens. I fine-tune my profile, changing it about to make it more appealing without being dishonest about who I am and what I'm looking for. I post regularly in the forums. Apparently I'm not what anybody wants* so my mailbox is usually empty.

*except for a few Doms who are too far away.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 11:02:16 AM

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Even as an Owned girl who doesn't bother looking through profiles at all, if i happen to notice an interesting profile for a Dominant i will still often send them a message.. Even though it would just be to say "i liked Your profile".. There's never any harm in being polite and saying hello. And if a friendship develops from that, even better.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 12:12:33 PM

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Metalmiss ,,,,,,,,,, Thank you so much for that reply :
There's never any harm in being polite and saying hello. And if a friendship develops from that, even better.

This is exactly what I was looking for, so many just seem to think that because they are at the end of some 'pc' they can choose to not reply to an email. Surely we are all old enough to now and understand what good manners are all about.......

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 12:58:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Hear hear!
That's pretty much what I was saying earlier, only much, much.. um.. shorter!

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 6:57:47 PM

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Can and have sent e-mails myself. But then, I'm not the type who is all bowing and subserviant to any random dominant, either. I think those type of subbies might be more hesitant to initiate contact.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 7:22:39 PM

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I think those ones need their masters to let them off their leashes a bit more I think. Still, half the fun is the chase. If anyones going to be rude then I'm not going to respect them and if time passed and for some reason we came into contact again and suddenly she was willing, I'd tell her to get f**ked. First impressions last. It's hard to make a good one.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/2/2008 9:51:46 PM

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I initiated the first contact with my Sir. I see no reason for s types not to contact a Dom that interests them.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 6:36:59 AM

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When i was first on here, new and confused, i contacted an intriguing Dom who wasn't even looking. Smiles, I have happily been His slave now for well over two years and it just gets better -- all because i gathered my courage to send a little 'hello'. :-)

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 6:46:53 AM

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i initiated contact with Master on another site. i didnt know about CM then.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 6:52:47 AM

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Have done! I figure any dom who has a problem with a sub/slave making first contact is not someone i want to hook up with anyway. To date, i haven't had one of them turn around and say "how dare you contact me! in fact the results have all been positive.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 11:43:05 AM

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I am job hunting right now. Really, there are a lot of parallels between Dom-hunting (sorry, Doms - that sounds rather crass) and job-hunting. I have sent out maybe 30 resumes during the past week, and have had two replies from jobs I actually applied for. There have been two or three for jobs for which I am not qualified and in which I have absolutely no interest.

There was one response (from my resume on one of those giant boards) saying the employer thought I'd make a good truck driver. Huh? You want a one-legged, legally blind truck driver? Well, we'll just let that one go without comment.

It's just like sending emails to likely Doms. I've gotten a couple of responses from nice Doms that are too far away. I've gotten responses from nearby Doms who are totally wrong for me. I've even gotten an unsolicited message from a Dom whose profile said he wanted a young sub with long, lean legs, wearing tight jeans and high heels. I laughed at that one and sent him a pic of me in my wheelchair. I'm flattered that he thought I was in the age range he specified on his profile, but I responded politely.

If you are a "niche" sub, you have to look carefully for your matching "niche" Dom. Quality over quantity. When you find the right job (or Dom) - the one that fits you - go for it!

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 4:05:37 PM

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This is how I meet my Master - I sent him an email first after reading his online journal.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 8:19:29 PM

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Probably not.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/3/2008 8:23:08 PM

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I actually contacted my Master first, many many months ago. We're engaged now. Some subs/slaves are more shy, but I think if potential is there most people (Doms and subs alike) will make their interest known.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/4/2008 4:41:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: katie978

Can and have sent e-mails myself. But then, I'm not the type who is all bowing and subserviant to any random dominant, either. I think those type of subbies might be more hesitant to initiate contact.

Agreed. The playing field is level for me until I find the one I will be subservient to. I approach all...sub/slave/dom/me depending on how the profile and journal reads. I actually DO read journals and what others have posted on these boards. If they post something that rings true for me or that I appreciate, then I'll contact and let them know.
Over time, I'm realizing that my reason for being here is to learn and connect.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/4/2008 6:26:25 AM

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When I created accounts online I was married and in a poly relationship - all open and above board. Many women are not interested in that dynamic so I didn't send out any emails at all. I let them come to me if they were interested and a few did. I suppose I would have contacted a poly friendly submissive if I had seen a profile that interested me but that did not happen. I am no longer in a married poly situation but I do have a submissive so I am not looking... but if I was an unattached dominant I personally would have no problem whatsoever in a submissive sending me an email expressing her interest. I know some folks observe a certain protocol regarding this but for me it would not be an issue.

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/4/2008 9:17:43 AM

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While I became a sub for my dom I am not a shy or demure person I have a strong mind and personality.I chose to become a sub for him.I think if I found someone intresting would have no problem e-mailing becuase all I seek is friends and conversation now.Peace and blessings,Emily

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RE: would you or not ? ? - 4/5/2008 5:25:10 PM

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I cmail everyone, Doms subs switches etc I dont see why I shouldnt, I always have done, if someones profile makes me laugh or think or whatever I mail them to say so, i guess thats because thats the kind of message I like to get.

I agree. I like writing and getting mail. Some people make me giggle and I let them know.

If I were looking for someone, of course I would write to them. As a matter of fact, if it weren't for a random line I dropped to my "gem" last month, I would have never met her at the club we all belong to, become friends, and then taken her as our sub.

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