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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/2/2008 6:05:55 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Aye I would.However I'd make it a holiday so if she doesn't turn up you can still look about and even visit a couple of olocal groups. organise it so you have other contact details and just make it a holiday with the hope of meeting her.

I undertstand what you are saying because I have similar here and i am certain that in order to fill my collars we'll need to migrate permanantly If your pic is you and a recent one then tou are young enough to enjoy a good adventure and oold and ugly enough (just pulling your led mate) to handle it.

Bugger me dead mate if your a Dom then why ask advise, thoughts ok but make up your own mind and forget what others say.

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< Message edited by IronBear -- 4/2/2008 6:06:39 PM >

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/2/2008 6:08:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say if you have the time and money to go and things are good on her end, you might as well go. But, if it were my money and time, I would probably arrange to meet and spend time together in a place I would like to travel to anyway. That way if they stand me up, or we find out we hate each other, I still get to enjoy my trip.

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/2/2008 9:37:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ehhh I'd meet her near the middle.  After all she needs to make some kind of investment in the relationship.

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/3/2008 1:20:19 PM   
ayondela


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Status: offline 		Hello KaineD,

i, as a submissive, went to a foreign country to see a man, and i didn't even know the language of that country...

to me it is ok if You really really are comfortable  online.

greetings,

ayondela

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/3/2008 3:05:32 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I went to Brasil to meet a slave a few years ago. I had been corresponding with her for probably six months before I went to see her. I stayed for a month, had a great time, but the relationship didn't really go much past my visit.
I would probably correspond awhile longer before considering visiting her. Just remember the odds are stacked against any long term relationship developing.  

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/3/2008 5:45:46 PM   
KaineD


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the feedback everyone.  A lot of good advice.  I think what I ought to do is talk to the girl for a bit longer.  Get her to send a letter that would be a good idea.  If she can't go through the effort of sending a letter then there would be no point.  But if she did then that would be a good sign.

chamberqueen's right, it's better for me on account of being male and dominant.  I'm sure it would be very scary for a female submissive to go off miles away to meet a total stranger.

If I do decide to visit the US, I should make plans and enjoy it while I'm there.  If she doesn't meet me or turns out to be horrible I can still have a good time!

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/4/2008 8:52:40 PM   
NorthernGent


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

It is the same risk as you faced before but just a greater distance.



'Not so sure about that. You're entering a different culture. Perhaps you'd get there and feel like a fish out of water and prefer how it's done in your home country; perhaps you'd take to it like a duck to water.

Either way, the uncertainty factor is ramped up a couple of notches when you step out of your comfort zone.

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RE: Would you guys think it's okay to go abroad to visi... - 4/5/2008 11:25:18 PM   
GoddessTeaze


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ORIGINAL: KaineD
Hey guys.  I've been talking to a sub online for about a month now and we get along very well and share a lot of the same interests.  Only thing is, she lives in the US, I live in Ireland.  I've had a terrible time finding subs locally.  Used to attend munches but the munch group fell apart.

Hello Kaine,

Ofcourse it's ok to go abroad,
to meet a sub.
The point is how do you know s/he is real?
Things as cam, phone, can help.
And time to get to know eachother.
So give yourself time to see how it develops.

I had been talking to a sub from the Uk over a year, and he kept on asking when I wanted to come overthere, I saw him on cam, and spoke on voice with him, and had a good feeling.
Wwe made an appointment to visit him during Christmas '07, and when I went overthere,
I was on the phone even still before I arrived at the trainstation, he never showed, his phone was never answered again..

So how much sure can one be?

I read the comments on the scene in Ireland,
and wish You'll find one closerby which is way easier to start with !

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`




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