HdCoreMaster
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Joined: 9/4/2005 Status: offline
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Real Doms ... True Masters ... ? I have heard, seen and read so much about this along the years, it is a recurring debate. A foreword: English is not my birth language, so bear with me. I have been attracted to this lifestyle since my early teens. At the time and in the environment I was living in (Europe, the 70's), this was something heavily frowned upon. Talking openly about this with my family or most of my friends was simply ... not an option. However, I had the chance to find in my godfather, someone that would not only understand, but also become something like my mentor in the lifestyle. You don't wake up one day and decide you are a dom, or a sub for that matters. We all know it is always a rather long process that implies a little more than getting "Dominance for DUmmies" and "Dungeon 101" from the nearest bookstore. In this aspect, every experience is unique and I can only speak for myself. My mentor at the time, made me quickly understand that the journey I was about to embark on, while ultimately rewarding, was going to take me on a narrow and difficult path. That if I truly wanted to know what was inside my soul, I had to start ... from the bottom up. I had the opportunity at the time to come to the U.S for my college years. While I was sutdying in Berkeley, I came in contact with the local "scene" and one day, with still his words in my mind, I made the decision to become ... a slave. To make a long story short, it lasted about 2 years where I discovered and experienced first hand what is it to be on the sub side. This made me truly understand who I was, what my needs were, how I was going to be able to fulfill them, and be the foundations for the rules and the values I have lived by since. First of all, as the common expression "Power Exchange" implies, a D/S relationship is anything but a one way street. You will fill your needs from what you will take from your sub, whatever that could be, and by doing that you will provide her with what she needs. This is all about balance. Being a 'Master" here, is how skilled you become to ensure that this balance is always respected. The day you are trying to take something from your sub that she is not *willing* to give, will be the last of your relationship. Your Master's skills here are all about being able to see what she really needs, and make her aware of her own needs. Some people refer to this as "expanding your limits". Yes, I am more on the sadistic side. This is my life and I am not ashamed of it. But one thing to keep in mind here, is that whatever I do, I remember how that feels ... and this doesn't make me an asshole or give me the right to act like one. Compassion is one of the few things that makes us human beeings. What makes you a "Master" or a "Sub" is truly inside you and does take a little more than choosing a cute login name in a chat group, or being able to write "On your knees, bitch" without mispelling any of the words ... :) If you are so insecure about yourself that you feel like you have to make a "prospective sub" write on her profile something like "Master BlahBlah doesn't want any Dom's to contact me" ... well, I would think twice about submitting to you :) Anyways, everyone has his or her own style, bottom line is how true you are with yourself.
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