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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 5:03:54 PM

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We call those sorts "opportunists"

And they wear all sorts of masks to cover it-but it's still sociopathic at the core.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 5:55:20 PM

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...I guess I'm just curious as to why someone would order something like this if they are secure with themselves and with theirs...

Some are truly inseure about their propety. I have seen Doms that actually maintained a poly family (for more than a year) and didnt allow the subs to talk with each other unless he was present. How insecure is that? Is that insecurity, is that control issues, I don't really know.

Some are just here trolling and don't care about the wrong sex contacting them.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 6:03:55 PM

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Interesting.

I'm sure he wouldn't want me there; I talk far too much for my own good.

*lolol*

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 6:16:31 PM

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It was one of the weirdest set ups I have ever seen.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 6:56:13 PM

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Just out of curiousity, and not that it really matters for some, but, were the girls happy?
Were they robot-like?
Did they all light up when he walked in because FINALLY they'd have someone to talk to?
And most importantly, how did he find the time and energy to listen to all of his slave's chatter?

I'm just sayin'...

*lol*

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/10/2008 7:12:34 PM

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But, how can someone poach someone who belongs to you?
Unless they don't.
In which case, you should thank them, wish them well, and send them a present.
(preferably something sparkly or something chocolate)

sparrrrklieeees!!!!

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/11/2008 7:01:04 PM

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what the brilliant KnightofMists called a "Power Enhancement Relationship Dynamic with Authority Transfer".

hejira,

I usually enjoy reading your posts and I love hearing about your relationship. However, since reading this post of yours he has been insufferable the last 24 hours!!! He is walking around the house telling the kids how "brilliant" he is.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/11/2008 7:58:51 PM

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However, since reading this post of yours he has been insufferable the last 24 hours!!! He is walking around the house telling the kids how "brilliant" he is.

yeah.... But... I always thought that I am Insufferable all the time!

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/11/2008 8:17:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: hejira92
what the brilliant KnightofMists called a "Power Enhancement Relationship Dynamic with Authority Transfer".

hejira,

I usually enjoy reading your posts and I love hearing about your relationship. However, since reading this post of yours he has been insufferable the last 24 hours!!! He is walking around the house telling the kids how "brilliant" he is.

Knight's Kyra

But I really did love this idea. Master and I were just discussing it the other night (in bed...

) It is just a great descriptor for a loving, r/t, real life D/s relationship.

I actually was going to start a thread about it. Hmmm.....maybe I will.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/12/2008 12:05:06 AM

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There are a lot of doms here who are really aweful about respecting a collar.. when I was owned, I had one who messaged me saying that he was better-- they wouldn't stop. eventually, my mistress screened out messages from anyone other than other sub girls-- the quanitity of doms who don't respect a collar is just too high for it to be worth wading through and trying to talk to people who CLAIM they're looking for friendship; most aren't! And I"m not so good at dealing with people. My friend's master also deals with people who she feels she can't deal with, and she tells anyone she can't handle talking to to talk to her master instead.
I had my mistress's password as well, though-- I would check her messages for her, or sign on to fix something (I'm a bit better with computers.) That was just a case of convenience.. living together, and not keeping secrets, I figured most people would share their passwords.. My ex-fiancee, with whom I had a semi-vanilla relationship, had my password, and I his... when you live together, you sign on, how often is it just easier to be able to say "hey-- I'm expecting an e-mail from _________ can you check to see if they've sent one?" and then read it off to them.. from either side...

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/12/2008 6:29:24 AM

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But I really did love this idea. Master and I were just discussing it the other night (in bed... ) It is just a great descriptor for a loving, r/t, real life D/s relationship.

I actually was going to start a thread about it. Hmmm.....maybe I will.

I look forward to it.

Hope you and your Master have a great weekend.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/12/2008 11:08:30 AM

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I am not concerned about what the gender or the role was of the people that my sub/slave chatted. I have always encouraged them to maintain contact with those that they were chatting with before being with me and never once said they could not talk to anyone of a specific gender or role. The only 'restraints' that I have had is that all conversations must be respectful.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 10:22:31 AM

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Thank you for post's, am learning to deal with parts of being a Dom, I know of a sub that is/was a very good on line friend, she met an on line Dom, across country from her, all sudden she is dropping friends and not answering mail, then deleted her CM account, the Dom from what understand is 3 years into being dry and clean from heavy drug use and heavy drinking, am wondering if he so insecure has to have her drop out of her life?.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 12:42:10 PM

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Seadog; You know she's going to need you when she realizes what a mistake she's made.
I hope you'll be kind.

BikerD; that's the way ours is too. It's worked out well for us. And, even when we've had problems (and we have, just like anyone else) I never thought about starting up an online 'relationship' with another dom that was anything more than friendship. It woudn't even cross my mind.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 12:50:42 PM

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Thank you for this note, interesting have heard this samething from three other very experienced sub's too, to be available, I did email her today say, yes I blew part of this, but am here for you anytime and anything.. I am thinking she is going to get hurt. Will be interesting. once again thanks

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 12:55:58 PM

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Well...I can't say I'm 'very experienced.' I've only had two doms, and I only knew about bdsm since less then three years ago. I'm glad you're such a good friend for her though. I bet she'll need it.

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 1:49:19 PM

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because i can!!!!!!! duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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So, I guess I'm just curious as to why someone would order something like this if they are secure with themselves and with theirs; I'm also a little baffled as to why someone would miss out on another's opinion just because of that person's sex...

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 2:22:11 PM

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O.
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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 7:44:41 PM

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Any and all can contact me... gender, sexual and/or D/s orientation, etc. doesn't matter. And if I like what they've said I'll likely send a reply.

Wankers, HNGs, losers, and other irritations are all deleted and ignored. Those who write purely to ruffle my feathers are quickly out of sight and out of mind. Who has the time?

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RE: Are doms so insecure... - 4/14/2008 7:45:46 PM

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