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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/20/2004 9:56:40 AM

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My profile (now) says clearly at the top that my parnter/dominant and I are looking for third and fourth parties as play partners and re-dirrects to our couple profile. My personal profile at the bottom says taht I am not looking to be singly dominanted et al.

I still get people who e-mail me, telling me to move to them, or that they'd love to play who get angry at call me a liar and a faker when I bring up my partner and ask how he fits into the interaction.

I don't know how much clearer I can be...

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/20/2004 1:38:48 PM

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Having worked for the US Gov't, I found that if something could be misunderstood, someone would.

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/20/2004 4:18:59 PM

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i think this thread is indicative of how poorly we men conduct ourselves at times. Perhaps we need to study ettiquet on this subject a little closer.

i myself am a submissive and if i find a profile of particular interest.....we have tons in common, are relatively close by, i might write a brief letter of introduction. if they have an interest, we open a dialogue. if the don't they never hear from me again. Sometimes when i see just a really cool photo, or quote or whatever, i might make a comment....

i hope this is acceptable...i haven;t had any rude replies. i also never do anything in mass...no cut and paste, no mass amrketing

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/20/2004 4:42:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laura

I have the opposite. I took down my picture, chopped my profile and I get more responses than before.

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ORIGINAL: MizSuz

and have been automatically blocking anybody that contacts me specifically to serve.

Don't forget the last step. They'll get tired of making new screennames and leave you alone (of course, I've been doing this for three years, but it does finally seem to be working).

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/20/2004 4:48:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PassionateNights

i think this thread is indicative of how poorly we men conduct ourselves at times. Perhaps we need to study ettiquet on this subject a little closer.

i myself am a submissive and if i find a profile of particular interest.....we have tons in common, are relatively close by, i might write a brief letter of introduction. if they have an interest, we open a dialogue. if the don't they never hear from me again. Sometimes when i see just a really cool photo, or quote or whatever, i might make a comment....

i hope this is acceptable...i haven;t had any rude replies. i also never do anything in mass...no cut and paste, no mass amrketing

This is the sort of introduction I will usually respond to, whether it goes further than that I can't say. But I would answer this, providing it didn't also include discussion about your kink or kink interests. I've opened one email that was a nice introduction only to get a second email that was a total departure into kink. It lasted just long enough to get a response from me and then turned into the sort of interaction I wouldn't have responded to to begin with.

Polite conversation is usually welcome.

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/26/2004 7:34:12 PM

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I came here to make some online friends with gals who have kinks (not necessarily like me) and can relate with me.

I send out a nice email to some with the intention of strikin up friendships, a couple have been wonderful by answering.

Just curious how it is on your end. Do you get swamped with emails all day?

Well i came online to meet people and make friends. I am not sure i will meet the one as a friend has put it, but hey cant hurt to be open to people. But it does help if when you reply to someone's profile that you are a bit more open in your first email to them. If the person is seeking a relationship and you are not then it would be a good idea to be clear in stating your intentions upfront.

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/27/2004 12:35:24 AM

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(obligatory smartass remark following)

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ok girls what is it like on your end?

two holes instead of one

(sorry - in weird mood tonight and couldn't resist)

Apply usual caveats here

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/27/2004 5:08:50 PM

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two holes instead of one

(obligatory quote from Monty Python and the Holy Grail)

*whispered* Three sir!

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/28/2004 10:08:28 AM

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*whispered* Three sir!

Egads - now I am the one guilty of discrimination against the urethra

- and me having just expounded about it on another thread!!

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/29/2004 6:18:46 AM

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Well, I am a new Dom here, and what I am going to say isn't very "Dom-like", but I think some male Dom has to come out and ask sometime.
I've tried other BDSM internet meeting sites because, honestly, I am looking for a sub. When I write to someone I make sure that (a) they are looking to meet a Dom for a possible match, (b) I make sure I am polite and friendly. Communication and trust is very important to Me before we start anything, so I try to convey that, and (c) I show respect for the other human being.
However, I never get any kind of response back either positive or negative. I tend to think it's because of my particular kink but I really hope it's not.
I would love to have a female sub tell Me what grabs your attention in a first contact letter. Perhaps if I may indulge and send a sample of what I write and have someone critique it.
Like I said, I know this might shatter the Dom image I have, but to Me, communication is the crux of this and I am obviously doing something wrong.
Any advice?

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/29/2004 9:03:24 AM

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Egads - now I am the one guilty of discrimination against the urethra - and me having just expounded about it on another thread!!

*whispers "pie hole, love hole, nether hole" in Thanatosian's ear"*

*thinks a minute*

*whispers "urethra? Hmm. You win, 4 it is"*

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/29/2004 11:24:46 PM

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*whispers "pie hole, love hole, nether hole" in Thanatosian's ear"*

*whispers back* the original question was 'ok girls what is it like on your end?' (emphasis added) - so I was restricting my original answer to that end of the woman - below the beltline - pie hole not included since is on other end of the girl

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/29/2004 11:34:16 PM

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First of all DTrance, you might start by being honest in your profile. I am experienced in hypnosis too. You cannot take over anyone through hypnosis. Whether it is used rightly or wrongly. Your profile comes across as rather creepy. And you are giving hypnosis a bad name.

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RE: ok girls what is it like on your end? - 7/30/2004 10:03:02 AM

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you might start by being honest in your profile.

Honesty. Speaking of which…

I was recently contacted by a man who essentially wrote that he would like to get better acquainted with me. Polite enough note. I look at his profile. He's a male dominant located 4000km away (my profile specifies early on, only local and only with submissive tendancies). He also wrote that he was new to the scene but listed single tail whips as one of his special skills. So I write him back, enquiring on what made him contact me, presuming he read my blurb. I also asked him how he got his single tail experience, being a newbie.

He then wrote back saying he was really deep down submissive and only wrote he was Dominant so that he could meet other submissives to be friends with. He said he was born near Montreal and always wanted to relocate. He wrote: "look at my profile now, I changed it for you Mistress" (insert LadyA eye-roll). He was now sub, with a note he was willing to relocate and the special skill of single tails suddenly disappeared. He said he was looking for a strick Mistress to keep him in line. He is now blocked.

Just be careful folks. He's now prying on another Dominant woman who won't have the luck of seeing him for what he is early on.

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