Celeres
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Well, I have to say that it is actually "possible" to be so submissive, that you are performing dominant needs to satisfy your partner. The only real issue that I see is your problem defining events. It's not a bad thing, but from what I've gathered from this post, you are asked to perform certain acts upon your boyfriend, by your boyfriend correct? If that's the case, I wouldn't say you are developing a "Dominant" tendency. The defining moment, I think, is when you personally, (independent from anyone) start having fantasies and take the reins of the relationship and force him to do things that he did not bluntly "ask" for. He may have "switchy" tendencies (switching between top and bottom), but from what you've mentioned, I'd say you're still "subbing." I'm not sure if you are familiar with the term, but he is merely "topping from the bottom" and yes, that is still "topping." He's directing the "scene" and asking/telling/ordering you to do things to him that might not necessarilly seem "socially" "dominant." However, if we all followed the "social" guidelines, we would all be outcasted since BDSM is not necessarily "mainstream" socially accepted... YET. (disclaimer--the following example may not be for everyone) For instance, from experience, some Dommes may even ask to be fisted. Personally, I don't think this act is very "submissive" but it increased her pleasure to the point of orgasm fairly quickly. For in the end, why is there "sex" between Dominants and Submissives? --for pleasure. Certain actions may not seem "Dominant" in the eyes of many, but if you are helping him reach orgasm/pleasure, regardless what the action is, he's still in charge, and you're helping him get there. Anyway, that's my two cents... --Celeres
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