RumpusParable
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Joined: 7/7/2005 From: NYC now! Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa I am not talking about never doing it, but only having experienced it once, would you tell your sub that you had more experience than you actually do? How important is it to you to be honest about how much experience you have, with your new sub/slave? No, I'd not tell anyone that I had more experience with a method or action than I truly do. In reality, I tend to fall on the side of doing the opposite: I tend to downplay or avoid telling how *much* experience I have in some things, for a few reasons,some of which are: a natural tendency towards privacy, a feeling that I always have more to learn in everything, life experience that has taught me to be careful who I express knowledge or skill to in words, etc. If I'm good/experienced in something then I tend to just let it show through the doing. If I'm new to something or not strongly skilled in it I'd rather be straightforward about it, again for a variety of reasons including: learning *with* someone is a great experience in itself, I'd rather someone know I'm still learning at something and will improve rather than them thinking I've a large amount of experience but am not good at it, I enjoy learning for its own merits and greatly enjoy seeking out and gaining from others with more knowledge/ability, I do not wish to risk (if it's something risky) someone else's happiness or health, and more. There just really aren't any benefits to fibbing about having more experience or ability than one does, as far as I can tell... eventually such things are bound to bite one in the ass. Either you get shown a liar or you look incompetent, neither are pleasant.
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Relationships come and go, but plastination is forever. I generally use fast-reply. If directing my post at someone specific I will indicate so. Minimal summary: Artist, Disabled Veteran, Vegan, Pornographer, and Agender dominant female.
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