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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Mistress, Domme, Goddess... (10/9/2005 4:18:03 PM)
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What is the difference between these three... Mistress, Domme, and Goddess..
A Domme, or Domina, or Dominatrix is a Lady who holds Herself to be a Dominant Female in this lifestyle.
A Mistress is one who owns a slave or is in an ongoing D/s or M/s relationship and is that person's "Mistress". Although some use it as an interchangeable title, many feel it is more appropriate to use the term Mistress (or Master) when one is actually a Mistress (or Master) over a submissive. Until such time as a D/s or M/s relationship is in force, the Lady (or man) may be Dominant, but does not own or have a personal relationship with one over whom S/he is dominant.
A Goddess is a style of Dominant or Mistress. When I use the term Goddess in My identity it is simply to refer to the style of Domination I prefer or mostly adhere to. There are also Amazons, Queens, Governesses/Nurses, Mommies, etc. Goddess is the most commonly used, even though it necessarily doesn't apply in many cases.
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I have had a few Domme's tell me that a Goddess is a fake, and I am not judging this either way... I am only asking the Ladies to respond with the ideas, and comments they may have to shed some light on these questions. Others have said that Domme's are just Women who want money... I am not sure about that, but then again this isn't from my mouth. Then there are those who say that a Mistress is the only one true dominant female that takes in slaves, and subs and who are serious, and care for those they take in.
Given the basic descriptions that are commonly accepted (above) I am not sure why any Dommes would tell you that a Goddess is a fake.
Saying that Dommes just want money is a bit of a generalization. Who is saying this? If other Dommes are telling you this, then I have to wonder how they identify themselves. There are many who are not Dominas (or Dominant at all) who try to take advantage of a large & needy male population by projecting themselves as Dominant when they are, in fact, just ladies who are using the internet to put some extra cash into their pockets. This is where good sense has to come into play. I hear, more and more, that many of these "ladies" are men. Use your head. The one above the waist that is.
Saying that a Mistress is the only true Dominant female is not completely true. I can see where one might have that impression. But there are many who do not identify as Mistresses, since they are not in a current relationship with a slave or a submissive. This does not mean they are not Dommes or Dominas. They are still Dominant, they just are not Mistress to a particular slave or submissive at that time. In addition, it is important to keep in mind that, even if I am a Mistress to one or two, that does not make Me a Mistress to all. I am a Domina to all in the lifestyle. I am a Mistress to My boy(s).
It is a preference, as MsSonnetMarwood explained. Some call themselves Mistress all the time. Some demand only certain forms of address, regardless of the relationship, or lack thereof. It is up the each individual to determine whether or not someone is compatible. I have many boys tell Me they are submissive or slave. I may not agree, but that is My personal definition.
Hope this helps. And welcome to the boards.
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