DesFIP -> RE: BDSM as a cure for depression and addiction (4/29/2008 10:08:40 AM)
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Maybe the reason that child wasn't made to sit still was because it had been tried and didn't work. My daughter is just about normal now, but up until a couple of years ago I got all kinds of snide remarks like that from people who saw the behavior and how it didn't go with her apparent age but just didn't know that the reason she acted so much younger than her age was due to a combination of mood disorders of differing severity. At least parents of physically handicapped children aren't told they're bad parents. Parents of mentally ill children are told that and it isn't true. Many times mental illness is a genetic disorder, nothing to do with spanking or not spanking them. No more than you can cure a child with diabetes by better parental discipline. As far as dual diagnoses, addiction and mental illness? If you treat the illness with the appropriate medication, then the person won't go looking for street drugs/alcohol to self medicate the problem. By the time they are adults they will not accept appropriate medication and stay users because illegal drugs offer highs which legal medications usually don't. All I can say is thank God my daughter has me for a parent and not somebody who would abandon her to suffer for years needlessly. If she had, then she wouldn't be the first person with her rare illness to graduate high school, not be a habitual runaway, not be a pregnant addict, not be headed for death before age 20. And why is she so different than every other kid at the same time born with this mood disorder that appeared at puberty? Because I wouldn't wait until she was 16, and an addicted pregnant runaway to try a new medication. I evaluated the risks with her board certified adolescent psychiatrist and we devised a way to try the only thing that offered hope while minimizing the risks. And had I not been as knowledgable and competent the doctor would not have offered an off patent use of a new medication because the risks at her then age are so high. Unlike the children you propose to have suffer for years needlessly, mine hasn't lost anything. She's on track academically at one of the nation's top universities, she's one of the top competitors nationally in her sport. She has friends and has even had a boyfriend. None of which was possible when she was diagnosed. If you make them suffer for years, they don't ever get it back. A ADHD child who can't study because they can't sit still doesn't get a second chance to go through high school at age 25. They don't get to take the courses over and then get better grades, allowing them into good universities and graduate schools. They only have one shot at it, which they are needlessly being handicapped for by not being treated for a brain chemistry disorder that is easily diagnosed and as easily treated.
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