DesFIP -> RE: What would you think when... (4/15/2008 6:20:40 PM)
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Ah, the explanation of banter meaning puppy play changes my perception. I assumed you meant the dictionary definition, playful verbal sparring. Which is why I said what I did, meaning that if you usually like verbal banter but weren't in the mood for it one day then you ought to have said something. Sure, if she started puppy play, and wasn't sensible enough to discuss with you what she wanted to explore, then it is understandable that you ran with it. Personally I love being led along on a leash on all fours but dog food, even if it wasn't really, is a hard limit. Not because itself but because it's humiliating and degrading to me and I can't handle that at all. However about trusting to do no harm. No. I trust that he intends no harm. And there's a big difference there. But that doesn't mean he could foresee the future and knew magically that having me lift up a foot in high heels while blindfolded is something that made me lose my balance. If he had, I wouldn't have wrenched my arm that time. Nor has he been able to read my mind. He's experimented with things that have hit previously unknown emotional triggers. He doesn't make the same mistake twice and that's what matters to me. That and intent.
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