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What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 1:32:17 AM

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I am acualy doing an essay for my Master so I can learn more. In your veiws what is it like to be a sub/slave? the good the bad if any. I'll not use names unless I have permission. (just nicks are fine IF you want) What is your veiw on the lifestyle? How you veiw your Owner how you feel ect. (does not have to be personal or highly detaled if you wish.) Thanks very much for your time.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 1:54:52 AM

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Very good question! I'm still quite novice and waiting curious for others ansver..

For me being slave is most of all accepting my Masters control and guidance and be the best slave i can be today and tomorrow be even little better..

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 3:05:32 AM

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If you are to learn more about feelings of being a submissive then surely its your feelings that are important becuase everyone feels differant.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 5:18:10 AM

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Confidence, happiness, security and freedom. I'd get a little disorientated when i think have to step outside my position.

How do i view my Owner? Well, She's my best friend, gaurdian, custodian and love of my life. I admire Her, trust her without reservation. An utterly amazing woman. The fact She allows me to submit to Her, humbles me. I'm so proud of Her, and everything She is about.

My view on the lifestyle: I've never had anything that works as well for me. Anyone who thinks about D/s must go on an honest personal journey, it has been one of the greatest periods of personal growth and self discovery i've had. It happens that it works for me, of course it may not for others.

The worst thing for me, is that i sometimes feel very needy, kinda of hard not to feel that in the times control and structure are not as present.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 6:31:22 AM

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We have been together 19 years.
How do I feel about it? Content. There is no posturing, nothing to prove, I can be myself. He knows the things that make me wake up in terror in the middle of the night, the things that make me laugh spontaniously during the day.
I know what wakes him, how to make him smile, and how to allow him to be him., with no guards up or pretext.
Over the years we have thrown all the "protocol & ritual" out the window, it was not needed, and actually became more of a chore for both of us to maintain than it was worth.
I know my place, that is all that is required.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 6:51:29 AM

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Being my Master's slave is the most important thing for me. We built a friendship and a wonderful trust before we began our journey.
I think we have both have taught one another a lot. I cannot imagine my life without serving him and being at his feet. The relationship we have has brought me peace and serinity. At the same time Master has brought structure to my life. He takes care of just as much as I take care of him. I love the life we lead and I love the fact that I know who I am whether we are together or not.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 7:21:36 AM

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We have been together 19 years.
How do I feel about it? Content. There is no posturing, nothing to prove, I can be myself. He knows the things that make me wake up in terror in the middle of the night, the things that make me laugh spontaniously during the day.
I know what wakes him, how to make him smile, and how to allow him to be him., with no guards up or pretext.
Over the years we have thrown all the "protocol & ritual" out the window, it was not needed, and actually became more of a chore for both of us to maintain than it was worth.
I know my place, that is all that is required.

Waves to Dee.

He's my best friend. The one person I know will think about how things impact me, the one who doesn't try to use me up. Because he's always there for me, I always want to be there for him in whatever ways I can.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 8:45:08 AM

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What is it like it to be a slave? It feels wonderful. Daddy is my bestfriend and soulmate, we connect on every level. I feel so cared for and loved also I love to be under my Daddy's control. I love it when he gives me that evil eye lol

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 10:16:54 AM

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I was trying to come up with a really insightful post that covered my feelings on being a slave, but I couldn't quite express what I truly feel, so I'm just going to go with one word.

Fulfilled.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/16/2008 11:58:01 PM

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for me it's the joy i feel when i complete a task, no matter how small and i hear him say good girl
it's the smile he gives me when i bring him a drink without even asking
it's his arms tight around me when i nuzzle up to him

the main thing is knowing that i make him happy just being at his side

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 3:04:54 AM

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Me even though this was my question, I do have to add my part. I agree with so many things here. Seeing Him smile is so important to me. I love when he says sweet pet and just Him being happy. That is my feelings. He is my Fire after all.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 4:46:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I was trying to come up with a really insightful post that covered my feelings on being a slave, but I couldn't quite express what I truly feel, so I'm just going to go with one word.

Fulfilled.

: ) it's a pretty good word and even better feeling..
nice response.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 3:25:12 PM

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to be a slave is for me most confusing. In my Sirs' and my relationship I do things for him that i resented like hell doing for my (ex)husband. If he had expected me to bring him a cup of coffee on a tray, i would have laughed him out of the house - but i do it for my Sir with contentment. My marraige always felt like a battle, with me and him on opposite sides of the conflict - i felt as if i had to fight for everything- even something like time away from the kids. We fought about wheither or not he should help with housework, taking care of the kids, or even how i did these things. I felt as if he was trying to submerge my real personality and make me into someone else.

My relationship with my Sir is joyful, loving, giving, thoughtful - and i serve him - but without resentment. I feel as if we are partners- and i am the junior partner. We have very little conflict in our house - we have more laughter and joy than i would have ever thought possible with a man.

My confusion is,as a independent woman, why is this relationship so different? By changing the name of the relationship it feels as if it made it ok for me to give away all the things that we are taught that we should value - equality, independence, self-assertion. And as a real paradox, by giving them away, it feels as if i have them more strongly.

Very odd.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 5:44:19 PM

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What it is like to be his slave...

At times it is intense and exciting. It can also be dull and tedious. Most times it is just easy and comfortable. In rare times it is frustrating and annoying. Essentially it is highly fulfilling.

The experience pretty much runs the gamut of most relationships. It is just life; the things that stand out, there are three of us and he has all the authority within the relationship.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 10:03:51 PM

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quote:

Very odd.

Not so odd if you think of it this way: The very fact you are submitting to Someone who actually understands and appreciates what you are doing ... To me, it's all in the context..

Cheers

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/17/2008 10:22:25 PM

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If one is a slave, then being a slave is the bliss of being who one is.

If one is not a slave, then being a slave is the hell of denying who one is.

It's simply one orientation within one relationship dynamic. It is what it is.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/18/2008 7:01:27 PM

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For me, being a slave is a paradox.

It is becoming myself by giving myself to Him.

It is learning who i am by letting Him show me, and re-create me, rather than trying to define myself.

It is gaining intense pleasure and satisfaction by pleasing Him, and ignoring what i want.

It is freedom to be myself by giving the control to Him.

It is wanting to do and accept what i don't want, because it pleases Him.

It is feeling honored and grateful to do and accept things i thought would be humiliating or degrading.

It is fulfillment gained by seeking to fulfill His needs and desires above my own.

It is struggling with a command i don't like, only to realize the struggle was my problem, not His command.

It is the freedom to obey.

It is learning that it really can be better to give than to receive.

It is becoming a possession to be used, and feeling more alive than ever before.

It is selfless devotion to Him, and the most completely selfish thing i have ever done.

It is what i am. It is being His.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/18/2008 7:41:48 PM

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In your veiws what is it like to be a sub/slave?

For me ...
Being Master’s slave is one of the hardest yet most fulfilling and rewarding things I have ever accomplished.
It is knowing you are cared about and because he cares he will push you to make you strive for the best.
It is about striving for your best and remembering your place even when he isn’t there to push you.
It is about being able to step out side of your comfort zone to please Him.
It is waking up every morning and going to sleep every night knowing you are where you belong.
It is being thankful for the chance to serve and find fulfillment in being where you belong.

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/18/2008 7:43:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: YoungWolf

I am acualy doing an essay for my Master so I can learn more. In your veiws what is it like to be a sub/slave? the good the bad if any. I'll not use names unless I have permission. (just nicks are fine IF you want) What is your veiw on the lifestyle? How you veiw your Owner how you feel ect. (does not have to be personal or highly detaled if you wish.) Thanks very much for your time.

Something is sticking in my craw about this. I have written essays, but usually they are from my perspective, how I see things.... what is MY experience. My essays were for me to find my truth within the process of writing. I find it hard to believe that your Master wants to know what I THINK and FEEL as a slave.

What it is like for ME to be a slave is not going to be the same as it is for you. Now I understand that you are looking for guidance, so here's what I'm gonna give you....

Find what it means to you to be a slave and within the context of your relationship in these areas:

Physically - sexually, hygiene, clothing, proper sleep, exercise, and food, etc.
Emotionally - transperency of emotions, expression of emotions, experience of emotions in different contexts.
Educationally - learning new skills for Master, paying attention to His likes/dislikes, learning for the joy of learning. to be a better conversationalist, etc.
Career/work - does work interfere, is it within the values of your Master?
Socially - how you are in relation to Master when he is present and when he is not... in different groups (family, work, bdsm group, etc)
Financially - do you use your money wisely in day to day bill paying, shopping for necessities, saving for the future, etc.

Also, there was a thread started awhile ago by Stephann about slave training... :
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1739270/mpage_1/tm.htm

Expressing yourself and your feelings as a slave within those ideas might be a good plan too.

good luck and peace
sunshine

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RE: What is it like to be slave? - 4/19/2008 3:07:40 AM

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Thank you all for your imput. The esay He requested is already compleat. He wanted me to get different veiws from different people and for me to learn as well. I answered one of my own questions recently because I learned more. Thank you alot of your replies made me smile.

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