MsLilac
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Joined: 5/31/2007 Status: offline
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The thing I notice when sub guys come in the mistress forum looking for profile advice, is that so many differing opinions get put out there, guys who pay too much attention to it virtually homogenise their profile, which must be so far away from who they are, that it ends up leading to further disappointment, for all involved when they can’t follow through. Another problem with this, is the really clueless are given good generic advice they implement, and they end up with a half decent profile, but still without a clue. Lol. I remember a few specific times during my search when I come across guys who had consistency problems, and it was almost always the ones who admitted they had 'help' with their profile. One guy in particular had a gleaming profile, but it become immediately apparent within just a few emails that his profile was nigh on fictitious - he admitted he had a lot of help with his profile. To the OP. None of the above was directed at you, just musing about general observations. Below I offer my opinion, take what you want, and what works for you. You have obviously edited your profile since this thread started, but I still do not get a sense of who you are from it. One or two parts are also slightly contradictory in nature (you mention that you do not want to mention your kinks, but then go on to do so). You also mentioned that identifying as sub is just one aspect of who you are, but there is only one very small paragraph explaining the other facets of your personality, with no elaboration. So, who are you? What kind of "social" things do you like to do? I take it you do charity work? You buy self help books? Because you describe it generically, I wouldn't expect somebody to be intrigued enough to ask - sell it, peak a ladies interest enough to respond :) I understand the need to mention about your “caustic” humour, but I would never recommend the last thing in a profile to be “please do not take me seriously”. The first thing someone remembers about a person, is usually the last thing they say or do. As somebody who works in marketing, I strongly suggest rewording that last bit. As a closing, maybe leave something enticing, instead of urging people not to take you seriously? Also, the intended meaning of that paragraph, to me, inadvertently comes across as if you are apologising for your sense of humour. Just explain it as a facet of your character, rather than highlighting it. You are who you are :o) I suggest devoting one sentence to it, in an illuminating paragraph devoted to describing other facets of your personality, near the top of your profile, maybe second or third paragraph down. By not mentioning anything about yourself as a person, except for ascribing an antisocial meaning to one small aspect of your personality is not doing yourself justice. Somebody mentioned using a pic showing your eyes, that was excellent advice. You have a lovely polished pic up there now, but eyes are very important, it is what we lock onto first. The muscular subtlety around the eyes can convey huge amounts of information we are unaware of. But some people can get this wrong. There are plenty of photos out there of people pouting blankly, trying to give themselves a cool, intriguing, moody, nonchalant kind of kudos; very few people can pull it off attractively or effectively (this is not directed at you btw). The eyes make or break a portrait. You have an attractive face, use it! Don’t hide it! That would be a damn crime! An approachable pic of you naturally smiling, maybe a candid, would work well imo. People are more likely to respond more appropriately to what you seek. You mention you are reading a book in this thread. Mention it in your journal or profile. Don’t sell yourself short. Wishing you lots of luck in your search. :o)
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