angelthighhighs
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Joined: 5/29/2004 Status: offline
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when i first started in this lifestyle i had one major Mentor, one that i went to when i had questions or doubts or concerns. i appreciated his imput a lot. it gradually grew to me having a few that i concidered mentors both Dominants and submissives as you learn different things from both sides. what bothers me is many especially online it seems use mentoring as a way to play. mentoring in my opinion isn't about that. its about having someone you trust that will be open with and will be open with you. one that doesn't tell you what to do but guides you to finding the answers yourself, that causes you to think, to look inside. when mentoring i believe there are boundaries that shouldn't be crossed. its sorta like a boss having an affair with someone who works for them. in some ways its an unfair advantage. i do know that many relationships move on further out of a mentoring situation but i believe it should be done with care. as far as a sub mentoring a Dominant i know i've mentored a few. it gives them a different prespective on things. its definitely not a case of the sub trying to lead the Dominant but helping a Dominant...isn't that what a sub does help people. i have had many Doms usually males not the Dommes... tell me there is nothing i can learn from a sub...oh god are they so full of themselves. we can learn from anyone. i've even learned things from those newer in the lifestyle than i am but the key is being opened to learning and wanting to learn and not having the attitude of knowing it all.
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