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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 1:16:49 PM

JohnWarren

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Deleted... multiple names explained

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 1:18:19 PM

Marx

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John Warren,

Ahh, i need to explain, i have changed my account, and my new name is Marx, after Groucho, and the great revolutionary philosopher!

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 1:27:31 PM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: domleybobby

The worst part is that once you win one of these prizes, they will always have one eye cocked on the internet looking to see if they can "better deal" the man they are with.

They get a mind set that with all of them men messaging them, that there has to be a "prince charming" just around the corner.

But of course, like any rule, there are exceptions. And many wonderful women online (both domme and sub) who once caught might be loyal.

I dont think you could have met and actually lived with so many women from virtual world to generalize like that. I assume your remark is based on one (maybe two) bad experience and in my opinion that is not enough to proclaim all women to be egoistic and cheaty creatures with no loyalty in general.

Here you established rule of your own that is rude and insulting.

And your exception assumes that women are only (maybe) loyal if once caught.

I find your rule generally rude and personally insulting.

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 1:42:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

That's one of the reasons I do not HAVE a "prolonged period of IM and phone."

If someone is serious about getting involved with me, then they should get to business right off.

We don't do phone and IM "getting-to-know-you's" either. We prefer to actually see how the person is in -person-, and if we get along in person, to begin pretty quickly to see whether or not they're going to mesh with our household. That's one reason that we really don't consider individuals who live outside of our area. The place where we live is so large that even an individual who lived on the outskirts of our city might not be a good choice for us, since we live near downtown--and it can easily be an hour or more from the outer part of town to the district in which we live. We want to see how people work, regularly and often, within the context of our family. If we can tell from the first meeting that it isn't going to be productive or comfortable, it is better to just end it right then and there, in our opinion -- and that is almost impossible to ascertain over the phone or through IM and email.

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 8:44:09 PM

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If you are strained by the search perhaps you should calmly step back for a while. You may be surprised.

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 9:19:22 PM

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A woman puts an ad online and get literally hundreds of replies. A man puts an ad online and gets nothing. That is the reality of it for online dating.

That's it! I've been cheated! Where are my hundreds of replies? I've gotten a whopping ONE!

Actually, I know why I don't get responses. It's the same reason I didn't get them when I was looking for a Master. I'm picky, and my profile shows it. But it only takes one... the RIGHT one.

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/12/2005 9:39:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: trampleonme

But i have fond that most do answer a polite, complete, thoughtout, intro to them.

thats just my 2 cents

It is so nice to hear this for a change! I know I'm not the only Domme who responds to messages.

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/13/2005 2:37:15 AM

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You might want to consider changing your collarme name (same goes for trampleonme). Both sound like fantasy job descriptions and not suggestive of someone looking for a personal, affectionate relationship.
Akasha

I echo Akasha's sentiments here. I always read a reply, but if a faceseat writes a note simply saying hello, and doesn't show me a real person behind that name who's taken the time to read my profile, it is almost guaranteed communication between us will not go well whether I delete him without response, or respond with "WTF?" M

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RE: THE STRAIN OF THE SEARCH - 10/13/2005 3:29:10 AM

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I take on board everything that's been said here and thank you all for the many and varied responses! I had more in one day here, than i have had in 4 months with the profile! It is easy to be despondent, especially when you wake and find yet another empty mail bag. When you look at the profiles of happy, content Femdom couples, it's easy to feel like you are locked out of the party - all those images of Dommes that make your heart ache! Wilhelm Reich said the best defence against neuroses, illness and Fascism, is the open-hearted embrace of our desires, this is why it behoves all singletons online to keep the faith! I know she's out there! The Domme who will transform my world! I deserve it, and it will happen, if not here, then somewhere! God I sound like a character in a musical!

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