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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/24/2008 9:09:03 AM

Missokyst

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Are you my mother?
<<shudder>> talk about bad flashbacks! For people like that good enough really means you will never be good enough, but keep trying.
Thankfully now that I am older I can see that her perception was flawed based on her MANY imperfections.
None of us is perfect.
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Good Enough means it isn't worth correcting the girl in my house.

when I say she did good enough it means that she technically filled my need however it could be improved without having to correct right there.

Perhaps you should PAY ATTENTION and try harder on these things next time.

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/24/2008 9:50:22 AM

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"Good enough" is also, here anyway, a colloquialism meaning, "alright!"

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/24/2008 10:38:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Are you my mother?
<<shudder>> talk about bad flashbacks! For people like that good enough really means you will never be good enough, but keep trying.
Thankfully now that I am older I can see that her perception was flawed based on her MANY imperfections.
None of us is perfect.
Kyst

Kyst,

Unless your Mother had a Penis and a Beard I hope not however none of us can be sure you weren't a product or the Circus Circut.

Actually I rarely use it because either is is right or it is wrong.

When I personally say Good Enough it is when I realize that My standard of Good and your standard of Good are different and someone has to give in order to make things work and since I am the one who have the standard I am the one who sets that.

Now if you find that you only go to that level and never try harder then good enough is no longer good enough and eventually we have a situation that ends poorly, I believe that good enough should mean you don't have to do it again but try to find a way to do it better next time. But then again I also point how HOW it could be better before just walking away.

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/27/2008 7:05:16 AM

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I recommend talking with your Master about it.

When I was young I would be given a task by my parents. I would try very hard to do my best. The answer I got from my stepmother was invariably, "That was good, but how could you have done it better? Faster? In fewer steps?" I have carried this with me throughout my life, always seeking for the perfect way to do things. "Good" just wasn't good enough for me.

I explained this to my Master. He never says, "good, but...". We all carry emotional baggage with us from our past. If a sub doesn't let their Master know then he will have no way to guess at it. In the meantime, you will need to realize inside that it is still a compliment and stop beating yourself up - I know, easier said than done.

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/27/2008 9:53:31 AM

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Much easier said than done! But what bothers me most about the demand for perfection is that the people who expect it are far from perfect themselves. I tend to think it is because they feel "not good enough" that they must push others into the quest for perfection.
Everyone has a different standard. It is hard enough to measure up to our own, let alone meet the lofty ideals in someone elses head.
Me.. I'll keep my general contentment. Rather than try to battle for someones discontent in my just being "good enough". I played that game for too many years and never won.
Kyst

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/27/2008 12:15:08 PM

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I'll try not to get too long winded with this.

Last year, I was at a very good presentation where the subject of "good enough" came into discussion. What the slave hears, and potentially feels, is that she (and I say 'she' because girl kat brought the question) is that there could have been greater effort, better results, lack of reaching a certain expectation, being less pleasing, or a dozen other possibilities. That isn't necessarily what the Master/Mistress is saying, but it is what is interpreted by the slave.

During the discussion, the example was given about setting a table for a formal dinner party. The slave may wish to spend several hours laying out the table. Make every setting perfect. Spend hours aligning each item, so the Master and the guests will see the slave's devotion in hopes of serving. Instead, the M allots much less time to the task. Enough to set a good table, but not a perfect one. In the M's eyes, it is good enough. That is the expectation that has been set, even if the slave sees a different one. It was up to the M's standards, but not necessarily the slave's.

"Good enough" can, at times, be very disappointing to hear by someone who is hoping to reach all heights in pleasing.

Thank you, slave kat, for reminding Me of that excellent seminar.

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RE: Is "good enough" good enough? - 4/28/2008 7:03:37 AM

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My friend was in the Navy, and she talks about 'good enough for gummint work,' meaning that it wasn't really excellent work, but it would pass a basic inspection.
I gather your friend worked in an office. The sea doesn't accept good enough.

The questioner is a dutiful slave and seeks to serve her master in all things. She is striving for perfection because she WANTS to. The correct response is: "Good enough, but..."

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