RumpusParable
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Joined: 7/7/2005
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General ways to lower incidents finding those who desire tribute or payment of some form:
Read profiles completely.
Do send a note that relates to that profile specifically.
Avoid the note being a list of desires, fantasy, requests or pursuing moving to email, chat, or IM.
Make sure your profile is filled out well and gives a clear non-wanker vibe.
Note if their profile seems too good to be true, over the top, or with Very Impressive Photos.
Some require tribute as part of the dynamic they prefer but are looking for a very real relationship.
Some require tribute and are females looking for nothing but an easy dollar.
Some require tribute and are not females but are still looking for an easy dollar.
Some are females looking for a real relationship but respond with tribute requests because they feel it weeds out the wankers.
Some are females looking for a real relationship but respond with tribute requests for the enjoyment of being smart-asses when they got a wanker or unrealistic feeling from the letter they are replying to or the profile it came from. (Writing anything along the lines of "I'll do anything", "no limits", or similar in idea will sometimes cause this reaction)
Some are using cut and paste because of any of the above. Some because they get such a sheer volume of mail that it's come to that in responding to some writers. And more.
It may be the type of profiles you're responding to or it may be your approach. If you were doing well on both of those, you'd still run into the occasional request for tribute but it wouldn't be constant. In most of the cases where this is the recurring and constant theme, it comes back to what you're searching/writing to or how your writing.
Your profile seems fine to me when I just now took a glance at it. I don't know what search parameters you're using or which profiles tend to catch your eye, nor do I know what your writing style is, so I can't make any call there. But what I wrote above is a generalization of what's going on out there.
Additionally, you've been here 8 days. Unless you've been sending out massive amounts of emails in that short bit of time it's unlikely you've actually gotten many such responses. If you have gotten many, then that may be your key to figuring out what the problem is.
Take your time, relax, remember this is just the same -if not harder- as trying to find a vanilla mate or best friend... it can take years of running into all those folks you don't suit or who don't suit you to find a person you clique with.
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Relationships come and go, but plastination is forever.
I generally use fast-reply. If directing my post at someone specific I will indicate so.
Minimal summary: Artist, Disabled Veteran, Vegan, Pornographer, and Agender dominant female.
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