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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/16/2005 7:03:52 AM   
stormie


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There's got to be some sort of pain that she does not like. You need to find it.
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The pain is behind the Intent.
A Dominant can pick up a piece of tissue paper and punish you with it, while most will say: tissue paper??? that would not hurt, that's no punishment. What is 'Behind' the intent of that impliment is where the pain lies.

Just my .02

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I agree with you smilezz, any object wither be as light as a feather or hard as a paddle, can if given by a Dominant can mean the Most heavist of "intent"..with that I will add It is also how the Dominant Applies the Punishment as well. Many of Dominants I have talked with have offered thier Guidance and Knowledge based on thier own Experience and many have all agreed on your statement that it does not matter What is used for Punishment but How it is Applied or Intended.
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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/16/2005 8:38:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Although my experience in punishment is somewhat limited, and i too know that when i mess up my own self-inflicted punishment is probably far harsher than my Dom would give, the fact is..i need the physical punishment from my Dom. The physical punishment actually releases my head and heart from the all consuming self-punishment i'm capable of, and it's only then that forgiveness can take place -- both my own and His.

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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/16/2005 10:10:50 AM   
clickgina


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Status: offline 		hello very lovely qoutes that u have gotten here , i am gina and ready to act or work as a slave for i can be catered for . i have had too many experince about life and right now i am willing to serve , whoever comes my way and be obedient to all orders giving to me . discipline to me is a good experince that breed me p for future and will
be sincere to all orders , rules and discipline .
thanks and hope to read from you

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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/16/2005 10:17:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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there are those submissives who do wish to please and do self punish and need assistance to forgive themselves.


I want to see this repeated, I think it's an important thing to remember.



I agree that it's an important thing.

However, in a dynamic that specifically includes punishment, it's not the same thing as "real" punishment.

In my relationship, it's inappropriate for me to "punish" myself. So, sure I can feel bad about it - but that's it. If I dwell on it, and "punish" myself, then I'm being self-indulgent, which is counter-productive to the dynamic.


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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/16/2005 9:10:07 PM   
Soulhuntre


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ORIGINAL: ImpGrrl
In my relationship, it's inappropriate for me to "punish" myself. So, sure I can feel bad about it - but that's it. If I dwell on it, and "punish" myself, then I'm being self-indulgent, which is counter-productive to the dynamic.


Many times that is the case, peopel rarely really have the objectivity needed to punsih themselves. Additionally, they tend to punish themselves for the wrong things, and not at all for many of the right things :)

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RE: Understanding discipline - 10/17/2005 7:08:19 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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ORIGINAL: xanderzzz
She has repeatedly stated she does not think discipline will be needed. She comes accross as a sub who states dissapointing her Dom gives her such a painful feeling that should be enough type attitude. She has some experience but not a lot in the lifestyle.


I recall feeling exactly the same way in the early days of my experience with submission.

It simply came from an incomplete understanding of long-term D/s dynamics. In my untutored brain I felt that since I was not one to engage in brat play, I would not need discipline. I longed to be a good girl, and good girls don't misbehave, right? ::laughing::

I simply underestimated the daily aspects of a power exchange relationship.

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