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Focus50 -> RE: A training question (5/2/2008 3:30:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Maestro66babycak
What do you do to 'train' your new or current submissives or slaves? What does 'training' mean to you?
Hmm, some basic training - looks like fun! A new sub spends much of our first week learning the "little" things....
She learns to take cues, starting with my having "modes". If I address her by her name, then we're vanilla equals and she is to use my name and interact accordingly (as adult equals). If I address her as 'girl', then I'm 'Sir' in response - and that it'll sting if she forgets.
She learns that when I call her to me, she is to stand directly in front of me and close enough that I can reach out and grasp the nape of her neck - but not so close as to crowd me... (lol)
She learns (when standing before me) that she won't need her hands (unless I say otherwise) and that they are to be kept by her side or behind her back - her choice of comfort.
She learns when to hold my gaze and when to look down - it's not complicated but difficult to express here in written words.
She learns not to be taller than me. Huh? If I'm standing, she stands unless told otherwise. But if I'm sitting, she sits or kneels - depending which I direct. IE, I'll either nod toward the seat next to me or the bare floor. She learns that seats are for sitting (lmao) but floors are for standing or kneeling - depending how tall I am at the time. And since I'm rather fond of stretching out on the carpet when watching TV, she learns that kneeling will suffice, thus an exception as she will still be taller than me in this instance.....
She learns the little things that I dislike. She is never to stand with her hands on her hips (looks bossy). She is not to have her arms folded in front of her (women "protect" their breasts when they are in the presence of someone they distrust or dislike - had some experience with the latter... lol). She is never to converse with me while wearing sunglasses - driving somewhere together is an acceptable exception.
There are exceptions to most things and she learns those, too, and there's no set time limit for her to get it right just as there's no punitive consequences for honest mistakes. However, she also learns that I'll accept a reason (even one she thinks is silly) but NOT an excuse.
And still she's fully clothed because we're only just getting to know each other. She learns that there's lots more to learn....
Focus.
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