ThorsHammer
Posts: 49
Joined: 1/1/2004 Status: offline
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Each of us is different (WOW .... that is a real intellectual statement! ), By this I mean each of us will be attracted in a different way. I do feel safe in saying that obscene, commanding statements, etc, will get you nowhere. When I contact a lady for the first time, I have read her profile carefully and looked at her interests. I then address those items that we have in common. In some cases this is difficult to do. Their profile may say "Looking for Dom," "I want to serve a Dom," or something similiar. In that case, all I have to go on is their interest, if they have any listed, location, and possibly a picture. I also list any possible "deal killers" for her to consider, e.g. distance, my age, etc. As often has been said here, a D/s relationship is built upon honesty and trust. If you begin that way with a lady, you have begun to establish the base for a possible relationship. I also ask them to take a few minutes to read my profile. When writing mine, I tried to the best of my ability to be as clear and concise about who I am, what I am seeking, the kind of relationship I hope to build with a lady, and similiar objectives. I believe a well written profile will also help. Other then that ..... I try just to be myself. I believe that it is important for the lady to know "things" about me that are not D/s BDSM related. Things such as hobbies, belief system, they way I live, activities I enjoy, etc. I try to show that I am a person, like her, that has interests and desires beyond BDSM. Just my thougs ..... Donn AKA ThorsHammer
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