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tsatske -> RE: Submissives & Slaves who Abstain From Sex (5/3/2008 7:16:27 AM)
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I only have penetrative sex with someone i am bonded to, in what i expect to be a life long mating. (eh, sometimes you turn out to be wrong about that part...)
in addition to that, my last 2 masters before Master, my last husband, a most of my playmates through the last decade, have been impotent. That is just a coincidence, it's not as if i ask about that during early chat = just happened that way. and, honestly, i was fine with it. By the time i met Master, in fact, i was seriously thinking about how i identify, sexually, and considering changing that, and calling myself a lesbian who happened to like bottoming to men. penetrative sex was just no big deal for me.
Master changed that perception rather thoroughly. Because He is THAT good? Well, honestly, yea - but also because, like the heavier pain and edgier play that i like, sex also is wrapped up in love for me, and just works better that way.
As to Doms who have a problem with that - well, good. When i am searching, my attitude is, the more of them i can run off, the easier it will be to sort through the few that have real potential to be a good match. That is why mentoring works so well for me. When i say, 'I'm sorry, i have a mentor, before we actually meet, i need you to write Him, okay?' Almost all of them say, 'sure, no problem', but 90% of them simply will not write another dominant man. WTF is that about? not that i care - i like it that i only have to deal with the remaining 5%.
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