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LadyRainfire -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:25:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level <snip> LR, I've always felt my "family" were the folks in my life that love me, and vice versa. Blood has nothing to do with it. So, phooey on them. A pox upon their houses, too. [:)] Keep your chin up, you're moving to be with a good guy. Level, I think I'm moving to be with the best in the world - and wouldn't have it any other way! [;)] [:D] [;)] Obviously I feel that way or I wouldn't be moving. My family thinks it's wonderful as well, it's just my mom I'm expecting problems with.

sirsholly -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:25:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 you know, i just called my daughter and asked her this question it bothered me so much. thank god she didn't say me. she said her dad and so did my son. i really would be devastated if my children thought of me in this light. i'm trying really hard not to be my mother(s). me too. Sad, huh?

Level -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:27:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Level *I don't know who would be the shit starter in my family not a word, holly, mainly because I don't have anything to do with most of them.* [sm=dunno.gif] Pre-emptive picking upon, I call it. [8D] why do i get the feeling if we were related you would have mentioned my name in this thread? [sm=rantint.gif] You, my dear, have that feeling because your conscience is nagging at you. [sm=mrpuffy.gif]

christine1 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:29:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 you know, i just called my daughter and asked her this question it bothered me so much. thank god she didn't say me. she said her dad and so did my son. i really would be devastated if my children thought of me in this light. i'm trying really hard not to be my mother(s). me too. Sad, huh? yes it is sad, but on that note, we have the power to change it right?

LadyRainfire -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:33:09 PM)
[8\|] Well, I know my family can't say it's me because I have the tendency to hole up and hunker down when things happen. If things go bad for me, I tend to disappear and try to handle things on my own, if things are going bad for others, I try to talk with them, see if I can help and if not, wait and see if they need me but otherwise, stay quiet. Hardest part about being with Lumus has been to learn to open up again and share what is going on and not keep quiet. I've been too quiet for too long... Which can be a good thing in a way... Bad in another way.

sirsholly -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:38:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 you know, i just called my daughter and asked her this question it bothered me so much. thank god she didn't say me. she said her dad and so did my son. i really would be devastated if my children thought of me in this light. i'm trying really hard not to be my mother(s). me too. Sad, huh? yes it is sad, but on that note, we have the power to change it right? We sure do...but it is always a haunting underlying fear...

sirsholly -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:40:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Level *I don't know who would be the shit starter in my family not a word, holly, mainly because I don't have anything to do with most of them.* [sm=dunno.gif] Pre-emptive picking upon, I call it. [8D] why do i get the feeling if we were related you would have mentioned my name in this thread? [sm=rantint.gif] You, my dear, have that feeling because your conscience is nagging at you. [sm=mrpuffy.gif] Nope...it is because i would follow you around...being a "shit starter". [:D]

sirsholly -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:47:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyRainfire [8\|] Well, I know my family can't say it's me because I have the tendency to hole up and hunker down when things happen. If things go bad for me, I tend to disappear and try to handle things on my own, if things are going bad for others, I try to talk with them, see if I can help and if not, wait and see if they need me but otherwise, stay quiet. Hardest part about being with Lumus has been to learn to open up again and share what is going on and not keep quiet. I've been too quiet for too long... Which can be a good thing in a way... Bad in another way. it is a good way to be because it can keep you safe and out of the line of family fire. But it also becomes ingrained...and it is a hard habit to break. Been there, done that, and have the headache to prove it.

christine1 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:55:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyRainfire [8\|] Well, I know my family can't say it's me because I have the tendency to hole up and hunker down when things happen. If things go bad for me, I tend to disappear and try to handle things on my own, if things are going bad for others, I try to talk with them, see if I can help and if not, wait and see if they need me but otherwise, stay quiet. Hardest part about being with Lumus has been to learn to open up again and share what is going on and not keep quiet. I've been too quiet for too long... Which can be a good thing in a way... Bad in another way. i hear you on this...my family is alway telling me i'm anti social. i might be, especially where they are concerened, but i just can't take the drama and stress...it's easier to retreat for me.

Level -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 12:59:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly Nope...it is because i would follow you around...being a "shit starter". [:D] [8D] [sm=agree.gif] It'd be my pleasure, holly.

sirsholly -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 1:05:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly Nope...it is because i would follow you around...being a "shit starter". [:D] [8D] [sm=agree.gif] It'd be my pleasure, holly. Actually, i was kidding. I am generally the one that tries to defuse things with a demented sense of humor.

PanthersMom -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 1:30:26 PM)
i have three sisters, all of whom are capable of reducing my mother to tears in nothing flat, which of course sends my mom straight to me, all upset and bawling. i would almost swear they do it on purpose! PM

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 1:40:50 PM)
Well my family would probably say me. but thats because I dont put up with the crap. i dont let my bossy little sister run all over me. i also distance myself from them. I dont need to talk to my mother everyday and if she called me that much I would tell her to leave me alone. My younger sister and i arent close. We see each other at family gatherings but i do no0t call her and she doesnt call me. My older sister. We use to have drama when we were younger but now shes a pal.

christine1 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 1:51:16 PM)
lushy, lucky you can get along with someone in your family. a few weeks ago it was my gma's 80th bday. one of my sisters is married to a microsoft executive. i drove up to my gma's house and got out of my car and sis came over to me and looked inside and said, "how can you stand to drive a car that doesnt' have leather interior?" what in the fucking hell do you say to something like that? i just said hello and walked off....i don't get most of my family and if i could move to the east coast to be further away from them it would be fine by me.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 2:07:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 lushy, lucky you can get along with someone in your family. a few weeks ago it was my gma's 80th bday. one of my sisters is married to a microsoft executive. i drove up to my gma's house and got out of my car and sis came over to me and looked inside and said, "how can you stand to drive a car that doesnt' have leather interior?" what in the fucking hell do you say to something like that? i just said hello and walked off....i don't get most of my family and if i could move to the east coast to be further away from them it would be fine by me. Well, you could split the difference and move midwest?[:)][:)] (lusciouslips is advocating for chrissy to move by her so they can have fun playin).

LadyRainfire -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 2:24:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 lushy, lucky you can get along with someone in your family. a few weeks ago it was my gma's 80th bday. one of my sisters is married to a microsoft executive. i drove up to my gma's house and got out of my car and sis came over to me and looked inside and said, "how can you stand to drive a car that doesnt' have leather interior?" what in the fucking hell do you say to something like that? i just said hello and walked off....i don't get most of my family and if i could move to the east coast to be further away from them it would be fine by me. Ummmm, next time she says something like that, why not look at her and say "why thank you - you're buying it, right?" then walk off...... Sheesh, family.... And if you move back east, if it's north enough, at least we're still be sorta close. grins

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 3:48:03 PM)
Christine the other thing my mom was big for was me looking slender, when I was a kid she had me on dexitrim, * an appitite control pill* And I wasn't even fat, and she always wanted me to wear girdles and tummy control top panties, cause it makes you look slender. Hell I WAS slender, I was like 10. She's still trying to convince me now a days, to wear the damn things, I always tell her no they're hot, they're ugly they're uncomfortable, and they do not make you look slender they just smash the fat down. And she'll start in on you at a moments notice over food, an then if you say anything to her, you're suddenly the bad guy. She tried to start in on me about dinner and how I had certaintly not taken long to eat an entire tub of sourcream * I did have quite a bit, but so did every one elseand I said leave me alone, she said get the hell out of my kitchen and she's still being ms ice queen cold shouldering you today lol. She also don't like my hair either, she thinks I should have it very short an styled and I ove it long and free so she's always telling mee very chance she gets how ugly it looks, how it has so many dead ends how frizzy it looks. How it'd look sooooooooooooo much better cut short. Thing is most people tell me my hairs gorgious, so I realize she's just pushing an agenda and don't listen. Besides it was cut real short an it's just now recoverin lol. Hugging back, I can ignore her snits just as well as she can be bitchy. quote:* ORIGINAL: christine1 wow YMHA...do we have the same mother? lol, i've never been accused of breaking a couch, but i do get criticized for "how i hold my eyes" wtf does that mean, like i can help that? she thinks i hold my eyes a certain way so i'll attract men rofl. oh then there's my hair because it's so big and not short and the fact that i'm not emaciated like the other women in my family. shrugs....i avoid my family like the plague, i just don't need the drama and i don't want my kids exposed to their closed minded, wacko religious ways of thinking. hugs for having to put up with that, i know how you feel girl.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 4:00:29 PM)
That is true, however my mom has no interest in changing how she is. She's been that way ever since she was a young adult. she's 69 now. It's been a life long habbit to pick and nit pick an start shit and be cruel. She's worse around little kids. She's raised three children, but she has no idea still how to nurture them talk to them and not think that yelling an mean tones are how you do it. Hell she used to call my brother a sissy and ask if she needed to buy him dresses and call him a girl when he played barbie dolls with me when we were kids. He's 2 years older than me an was sometimes my only companion. I commend you on all the hard work not to be your mother(s) It's truely something we have to work at not to fall into known patterns. I always swore when my time came to be a momma I wouldn't slap them or scream at them or tell them to go to hell, nor do anything my mom did to us. quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 you know, i just called my daughter and asked her this question it bothered me so much. thank god she didn't say me. she said her dad and so did my son. i really would be devastated if my children thought of me in this light. i'm trying really hard not to be my mother(s). me too. Sad, huh? yes it is sad, but on that note, we have the power to change it right?

DesFIP -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 4:03:43 PM)
Sister in law. This is a woman who has never dealt with her abuse issues, never gotten therapy. And when my grandmother died, she didn't give my brother any of the multiple messages about the funeral, just erased everything from the machine and kept telling him nobody had called. Thankfully I found his office number at the last minute.

christine1 -> RE: Who in your family likes to be the emotional shit starter? (5/4/2008 4:04:57 PM)
i wasn't meaning changing others YHMA, i was meaning changing the cycle and stopping it with ourselves so our kids don't experience the same things through us.

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