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ORIGINAL: Insatiable4Black
Is it a non-submissive thing to have reaffirmed my refusal, my discomfort and my "limit" of not having phone sex? He doesn't like "being denied".  He has now done a 180 degree turn and isn't speaking to me.

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

You owe nothing more than what you're willing to give. Whatever level that ends up being, it's the other person's path to deal with it. They have the choice of deciding it's not enough for them...or that it is.

Master Fire

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ORIGINAL: Kirren

okay...since when is a week considered a giant investment of time? I just dont get that? I mean okay...so sometimes you just know...but...a week? C'mon now.     

I dont get that at all.

Since you know the answer...but want to offer input...thats great by the way...allow Me to toss My two pennies on the table...not that itll get you much...

A submissive only owes as much as she is willing to give...if she states that she is not comfortable with something...then that should be a line...that is not to say that after more conversation or time has passed that the line can be moved, adjusted, or simply walked all over.  The submissive, the free submissive, only owes one person in her life. herself. she has to be true to what she desires, and seek the compatible mate.  If a Dom is willing to delete a profile, well thats great, but lets face it, its not like you have to have a DNA check to make another one, right?  And whos to say lil buddy doesnt already have a back up?

The whole meeting on the net thing seems to have become some kind of a game  for some people...you can demand what you want because some where out there is some one desperate enuff to just hand it over to you...thats jacked up. People dont have a sense of who or what they are any more, so they are willing to comprimise those essential parts of self to satisfy some one who may or may not be what they say that they are.  They think speed dating via web cam is the way to go...and in reality you dont get a real picture of the person on the other end until you spend some time in their presence. Phone sex, cyber sex, web cam sex, hell sex in general, does not always equal compatibility in the more important arenas of life and love.

I say to and sub or slave that is having an issue like this...to thine own self be true...and when you find the right one be true to them as well...cos the right one doesnt come walkin round the corner every two seconds, and the grass aint always greener on the other side.

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

he's in Norway but resides in your state - red flag right there for me. i met a dominant from here who claimed to be from my state but lived elsewhere (Ghana) however it didn't take long to figure out he was scammer.