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just a question.. - 5/8/2008 9:16:09 AM   
ferriemistie


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Status: offline 		Ok i am going to be going to stay the night with a Dom friend of mine and his slave/wife next week. i have known the Dom for about 3 years and we "played" around before. (no real scening or anything) Well i was invited to play with them when i go stay with them. To be totally honest i have had vanilla 3-somes but that's it.. He wants to know what i want to happen.. i really have no idea... Before when i was with Him or any other Dom i wasn't "asked" what i wanted to happen so i'm kinda lost..  Basically i guess i am just looking for some suggestions..  Oh yea i should add that i am pregnant (not really far along though) so that's another reason i'm not really sure what is "safe" playing while pregnant.. (if that makes sense)
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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 9:20:28 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		I was with you till the pregnant thing came up. I would vanilla play with a pregnant woman but thats it.

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 9:42:44 AM   
MadameXTC


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Status: offline 		okay so I played with both of my pregnancies, whats wrong with playing safely when you are pregnant? Just make sure that flogging/ spanking etc any hard play is not aimed around the parts that could hurt * belly and lower back, I also steered clear of breast bondage when I was pregnant too just cause they are tender* make sure that if you guys play to drink plenty of water, keep hydrated and since your early in your pregnancy you dont have to be "as carefull" as throwing yourself into contractions with play but you still need to be aware of the fact that what you do could have an affect on your child. Best bet is to play as comfortable as you can possibly be in your situation. If inserting items make sure they wont be harmfull, try to steer clear of electrical play and have fun.. If you have a kink friendly dr ask them of what you can or cant do according to what trimester you are in. In the third trimester intense play can send you into preterm labor. *yeh I had contractions a few time and had to end all of my play at about month 7 1/2 for both kids*  btw both of my kids are healthy and happy, although i swear my now 2 year old daughter is a budding dominatrix lol

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 9:54:25 AM   
ferriemistie


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ORIGINAL: MadameXTC

okay so I played with both of my pregnancies, whats wrong with playing safely when you are pregnant? Just make sure that flogging/ spanking etc any hard play is not aimed around the parts that could hurt * belly and lower back, I also steered clear of breast bondage when I was pregnant too just cause they are tender* make sure that if you guys play to drink plenty of water, keep hydrated and since your early in your pregnancy you dont have to be "as carefull" as throwing yourself into contractions with play but you still need to be aware of the fact that what you do could have an affect on your child. Best bet is to play as comfortable as you can possibly be in your situation. If inserting items make sure they wont be harmfull, try to steer clear of electrical play and have fun.. If you have a kink friendly dr ask them of what you can or cant do according to what trimester you are in. In the third trimester intense play can send you into preterm labor. *yeh I had contractions a few time and had to end all of my play at about month 7 1/2 for both kids*  btw both of my kids are healthy and happy, although i swear my now 2 year old daughter is a budding dominatrix lol



Thanks for your response... i will only be 13wks *to the day* when i go stay with them.. i know He has experience playing with a pregnant sub/slave cause Him and His slave played while she was pregnant.. it's more i have no experience playing while pregnant so when He asks what do i want to do i am totally clueless.. lol

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 10:06:16 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Some people recommend not horse riding when pregnant - but many do.
Just realise and be aware there are risks when playing during pregnancy - but then there are risks having sex when pregnant too.
 
Personally, the first 14 weeks is probably quite high risk.  I would not recommend any breath play, stretching or suspension play or prolonged limb bondage or positions where you might be held for a long period I would avoid.  Keep well hydrated and use your commen sense.  If its uncomfortable, then stop.  Remember that even if he played with a pregnant woman before, you will be totally different.
 
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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 6:23:00 PM   
beltainefaerie


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Status: offline 		Pay really close attention to your body.  I am about 7 1/2 months pregnant.  We have played until really recently and our current stopping has less to do with health and safety and more to do with timing.  Be aware that in your first trimester, your body is more likely to decide that circumstances are not right for a baby if anything feels amiss, so I would play lightly.  I would avoid heavy impact play, breath play.  Basically anything too stressful. 

As for playing with the Dom and his partner, what did he have in mind?  Perhaps he is just trying to see what you would be open to.  How sexual is it likely to be?  What are your limits for what can/should be done to you.  Think about those sorts of things and if that isn't what he was looking for, he should ask a more specific question.  Have fun!

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 6:42:39 PM   
StormsSlave


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Status: offline 		Since the.dark just gave you some outstanding advice about your pregnancy, I would listen to every word she said.  (I've had three UM's myself, and this is sound advice for any stage of a pregnancy.)

As for what do you want, well, what do you want?  Do you want him to tie you down to the bed while his wife/slave tops you, or vice versa?  Do you want him to orchestrate a scene between the two of you/three of you?  Do you want him to tie you up and make you watch him use her?  Or vice versa?  The options are almost unlimited within the boundaries of safety for you and your baby.  How about a bondage scene where you and the Mrs. are bound to one another and facing one another on your knees so that he can use you both while he watches you pleasure one another pressed together?  Use your imagination, and I'm sure you'll come up with something to tell him.  If you have specific questions, shoot me a cmail.  My Lord and I will be glad to help you out.

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 6:46:53 PM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		Something tells Me you aren't sold on this.

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 7:58:37 PM   
openlil1


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Status: offline 		You don't mention whether this is your first pregnancy...but be aware that even this early your ligaments may be starting to "give" a bit more than usual...so what you used to tolerate in terms of flexibility/bondage/restraint may be more difficult and could lead to things like your back "going out", etc.  i would listen to  the good advice above.  i would make electrical, breath play and suspension no-no's.

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RE: just a question.. - 5/8/2008 8:24:45 PM   
ferriemistie


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Status: offline 		beltainefaerie- He has expressed that He would like for it to be very sexual.. i am open to "sleeping" with Him and His slave.. i am also pretty open to most anything as long as He doesn't leave marks because i have a OB appt 2 days after the visit and really don't want them calling the police or something saying i've been abused.. lol

Stormsslave- The things you meantioned i hadn't even thought of.. but i will have to pass them by Him and see what He says..

MladyHathor- i am very open to playing with them- i was offered to play with them last year when i stayed with them but my Dom at the time wouldn't go for it.. The only thing that is holding me back is i don't have many good experiences with "3-somes"

openlil1- this is not my first pregnancy... i have a 2 year old..


Thanks to E/everyone for the wonderful advice!! i greatly appreciate it!!

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RE: just a question.. - 5/9/2008 5:20:41 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ferriemistie

Ok i am going to be going to stay the night with a Dom friend of mine and his slave/wife next week. i have known the Dom for about 3 years and we "played" around before. (no real scening or anything) Well i was invited to play with them when i go stay with them. To be totally honest i have had vanilla 3-somes but that's it.. He wants to know what i want to happen.. i really have no idea... Before when i was with Him or any other Dom i wasn't "asked" what i wanted to happen so i'm kinda lost..  Basically i guess i am just looking for some suggestions..  Oh yea i should add that i am pregnant (not really far along though) so that's another reason i'm not really sure what is "safe" playing while pregnant.. (if that makes sense)

Maybe it's just me but if a dom asks a sub to play, it's reasonable to assume that dom has something in mind?  Perhaps you've inadvertantly called his bluff; that he was expecting a nay?  lol
 
Doesn't matter; doms lead so if he does wanna play and you're agreeable, then put it back on him to produce the goods!  All he then need ask of you is what you won't do....
 
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