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RE: instant submission? - 5/26/2008 7:29:49 AM

manwholuvs

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candisa I agree with you completely on this matter. Dominance is not something that is inherant in certain people. It is how they conduct themselves in life. One can usually tell in a conversation or by observing situations to see who is in control.

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RE: instant submission? - 5/26/2008 12:23:07 PM

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submission for me... involves mind and heart, then body..... this all takes a bit of a courtship for me. instant submission? cannot wrap myself around that.

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RE: instant submission? - 5/26/2008 12:54:44 PM

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I can't say I would refuse a girl on the grounds she was interested in instant submission, but its not something I look for either. Typically I won't even involve D/s aspects of a relationship until I am well into things and know fully how I feel abbout my partner. However I did have one submissive who submitted to me after only a few days of us being involved. I still didn't engage hardcore into things, but it wasn't something I shy'd away from either.

On top of this, there are a lot of submissive/slave types who really don't want the nicities. Call them bobbleheads or doormatts or what have you but they exist and they want nothing more or less then to be treated less then human from day one. Its not something I want personally, but then I am not something they want either. Different strokes for different folks.

For your particular situation, my advice is this: You told him from day one you had a hard limit about submission and how fast or slow it would take place and whether it could happen online or in person. He blatently ignored those limits and acted as if they were never spoken. Steer clear of this. What happens if you continue and meet him in person and he ignores a different limit. Very bada things could happen. Is it worth that risk when so many others clearly agree with your ideas of this lifestyle?

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RE: instant submission? - 5/26/2008 1:24:11 PM

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my submission to my Master was almost instant (give or take a couple of minutes), but that was when we met in person. It wasn't something He asked for, or something we discussed as we weren't meeting with the possibility of a relationship.. Its something that happened naturally, He just saw what He wanted and took it.

But if it was me in the situation you describe, i would be asking the same questions and would be of the view that it wasn't right for him to be asking me to do that.. Especially given what you have said regarding the fact that you haven't met in person & the sporadic contact you have had from him.

If i was seeking and a person started pushing me like that i would just put him in with the "kneel bitch brigade".. The need to push and show any kind of impatience with something like your submission strikes me as being the actions of somebody who is insecure, doesn't understand the Dynamic at all.. Or even worse.. Both..

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RE: instant submission? - 6/2/2008 9:39:24 AM

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Instant submission, big turn off. All subs that contact me with 'how may I serve you sir' have instantly lost attention.

Submission should be earned because of who I am, something earned has value.. and I want my subs to be worth a lot too me.... something too treasure.

I want the thrill off the moment when someone I've been getting to know, I find very attractive both mentally and physically submits to me and becomes mine to do with what I please.

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