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RedMagic1 -> RE: Advice (5/15/2008 5:24:15 PM)
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I've dated two Dommes in the last twelve months. I met them both through Alt, but one had a profile on Match.com, and the other had a profile on AmericanSingles.com. They are both active in their local scene -- one attends events and classes a couple times a month, and the other is on the Board of Directors of a femdom organization.
I mention this because a lot of people are primarily looking for a life partner, with the understanding that BDSM can be negotiated and dealt with, as long as there is general compatibility -- and love -- in the picture. This doesn't make someone "in the bedroom only" or "fake."
So, fact #1: a "Mistress" is not some came-from-on-high mystical being. She's a human, with wants and needs -- and she's probably sick of men (and women) bowing down before her long enough for them to get their rocks off and split. Approach a woman you are attracted to, get across who you are and why you think she is attractive, and see what happens. Think "how would I talk to her if we were both vanilla?" and, in general, do that.
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