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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/28/2008 2:30:08 AM   
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It depends on the person. My bf, he is more submissive than dominant, I feel comfortable controlling him. 

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/28/2008 9:29:22 AM   
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It's easier for me to submit- it is the role that I have the most experience with, it is the role where I am allowed to be quiet, and meditate, and slip into subspace... as a Top/Domme/whatever, I'm always thinking, always watching, always on alert for safety, for cues as to how my pet is doing.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/28/2008 11:54:08 AM   
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It's easier to be the Dom... although it requires more planning, it is far less exhausting... and when everything is set for your convenience, it definitely becomes 'easier'.

Subs have to do all the worrying and sweating.. lol

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 7/25/2008 7:23:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

What's easiest for me?  Being me.

I'm apparently one of those rare forms of switch that can switch easily and often within one relationship, and easily at any given time.  To be perfectly honest, I'm both at all times.  It's a constant double presence in my head and something I've learned over time to deal with rather well, and handle without confusing myself too much.



Beautifully said....and I agree totally in relation to myself.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 8/5/2008 12:24:20 AM   
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Being Dominant is far easier for me than it is for me to be submissive. I think of myself as having a default dominant mode that I have to consciously switch off.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 8/5/2008 12:14:42 PM   
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For me, it's much easier to submit, someone told me a switch friend of hers said "when i submit, i just have to lay there and smell pretty!" I find that dominating takes such intense mental energy that I am totally wasted afterwards, but subspace makes me all warm and cozy.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 8/6/2008 4:11:39 PM   
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Really depends on the situation with each person participating. There's expirience in either role to consider, as well as willingness at the time to play a certain role, and most important, your partner. I, personally, however, would not consider "easiness" of either role, so the question is a little bit strange. What's "easier" for me to handle is finding a partner who is the opposite, puzzle-piece fit to whoever I am at the moment, though I do most of the fitting, according to who my partner is at the moment, frankly.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 10/22/2008 6:43:32 PM   
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i don't know if one is easier than the other. i find topping more challenging. it takes a lot to bring out something resembling sadism in me. i'm a nurturing mistress and prefer to have him curled at my feet than hanging from the ceiling. but pet loves it, so that makes it easier. i have an intuition for what he wants so there's a bit of confidence coming from that. but then it can be very easy to just let him take over and become putty in his hands. it has been a tad not-so-easy, like when he's wrenching my nipples faster than i can respond "yes sir".

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 10/25/2008 1:07:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aneirin

A question for the switch, as I feel only a switch may know the answer to this question ;

Which for you in your switch is the easiest role to take on , submissive ?  dominant ?

And why ?



Oh I love this question because its one I asked others many times before becoming a switch myself (something I never thought I could be in my lifetime).

I love both sides equally. I am neither more dominant that submissive... well perhaps a bit more! and I am no more submissive than I am dominant.... or just perhaps a teeny bit less!

Its being able to see the clues in your partner or him in you and just going by gut instinct into the role we both want to be in or taken into. We never discuss what role we are going to take, it just happens.

Tonight I am going to a club on my own and tomorrow I know with out question that he will physically take me back and put me in my place. He slept with our fem sub last week and when I saw him the following night he knew that I had to physically take him back.

For switching to work you have to be hungry for both sides and thats the both of you.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 10/25/2008 1:11:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

What's easiest for me?  Being me.

I'm apparently one of those rare forms of switch that can switch easily and often within one relationship, and easily at any given time.  To be perfectly honest, I'm both at all times.  It's a constant double presence in my head and something I've learned over time to deal with rather well, and handle without confusing myself too much.



I can relate to this so much and you explain it so well.
I think both my man and me are both at both all times. He can be in the middle of dominating me and the whole thing can change in a second.
I think its a very hard thing to understand.... by others I mean

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