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OmegaG -> RE: Where has all the common respect gone? (5/20/2008 8:41:49 AM)
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FR (and working on MR's 5 pages)
There are two reasons why I poof, apathy and desperation.
1. Apathy, first let me preface this with the way my brain turns-- I'm a processor which means that when I am in the moment I am really in the moment, later I process that moment and think about how I felt and what I'm thinking. When I poof out of apathy it's because I've decided in retrospect that there isn't enough going on there to keep me interested in continuing. I also tend to procrastinate so even if I had the good intentions of a closure communication, by the time I get around to it, the window for oppurtunity has passed.
2. Desperation, his now mine. Somewhere along the lines of communication he's either indicated or come right out and illustrated that he's not going to take regection well. I wasn't put on this earth to make everyone else happy, I'm here for me and if poofing is going to be the most effective way for me to move on, then that is the path that I will take. All too often when you try to remain civilized by bringing an actually closure the desperate person will use ever second he has of brow-beating you, harrassing you, begging and pleading with you, whatever method he thinks he can use to sway you to change your mind and stick around because it's pleasing to him and he has no regards for your feelings. I have to spend enough time dodging these types of communications from my daughter's father, and have been for 18 years, why would I open the door up for others to do the same?
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