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xxblushesxx -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/22/2008 10:53:11 AM)
Erm...was that the gun one? That was kinda scary...

JohnWarren -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/22/2008 11:13:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Erm...was that the gun one? That was kinda scary... Yup, actually, I could have made it a lot longer since the scene it was based on went on for hours, but it was originally written for a webzine ($) that put an arbitary length on it. I suppose I could have fleshed it out after the exclusive-rights period elapsed, but I'm just damned lazy

Master96 -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/22/2008 11:40:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitarina ....... i flip through the pictures and think He looks really scary cuz of the expression on His/Her face, ....... Man!!! I wonder if I scary the girls off me!!!! I hope not :P

AtlantisKing111 -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/23/2008 8:32:57 PM)
Just try to relax. Most on here are pretty decent people. "You don't make any sales if you don't make any housecalls"

kitarina -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 2:17:58 AM)
im not trying to whine or make excuses. I just know that i get to talking to Someone, panic, and run away. I've tried meditation, dinner dates, etc. and every time i end up freaking out. Thank the Goddess for the invention of inhalers or i'd be passed out 90% of the time lmao.

julietsierra -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:06:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren Warren's Test: Throw panties at wall. If they stick, you like it whatever you think is happening Disclaimer: Please throw panties at a different wall than the one you use to test to see if spaghetti is done. Another disclaimer: It is not necessary to throw panties against the wall to decide if you like spaghetti Yet one more disclaimer: Do not confuse spaghetti with panties - the effect is decidedly different. Just your average PSA here... juliet

julietsierra -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:17:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitarina im not trying to whine or make excuses. I just know that i get to talking to Someone, panic, and run away. I've tried meditation, dinner dates, etc. and every time i end up freaking out. Thank the Goddess for the invention of inhalers or i'd be passed out 90% of the time lmao. Then I'd suggest something a bit more comfortable where you can just have a good time emgaging in some structured activities with a group of people. I know our group here goes to the Renaissance Festival every year. We meet someplace very scary like McDonalds in the morning and then head on to the festival. This way, you can spend the day with a group of people, with no opportunities for anything more than a lot of laughter, good food and having some fun. Dress up. Play. Be a kid for a day. The structure helps because while yes, you are with kinky people, you're actively engaged in doing something while you're getting to know people rather than having to come up with conversation over a dinner or something like that. And it helps to see that all around you are vanilla people doing the very same things you and your kinky companions are doing. The event helps to structure conversation etc... Beyond that, if you're running in fright every time you consider simply mingling with people, then perhaps you're simply not ready to meet people yet - no matter how much you may WANT to. Be patient. Take your time. Be kind to yourself. And engage yourself in doing things that help to build confidence in yourself and trust in your sense of judgment. I'm willing to bet that it's not the big bad dominants you're most frightened of. I'd bet money that you're more afraid of making a wrong choice again and you're not at all sure you have the ability yet to make the right choice. If you're that afraid of meeting people, just perhaps it's your way of telling yourself to take more time and work on you. We so rarely listen to ourselves and we really should. juliet

AVoiceofSanity -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:30:01 AM)
I know you and I haven't chewed you alive. Yet.

kitarina -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:40:36 AM)
Youre different. You approached me first :P and wouldnt take no for an answer :P

AVoiceofSanity -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:44:26 AM)
I never heard the word No, in any form whatsoever. The moaning must have muffled it. Which is amazing as I haven't even touched you yet. By the way, those S.A.M.s we were chatting about earlier. I can make those. drops a pencil Hey hon, be a babe and get that for Me dear.

kitarina -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:46:37 AM)
-looks at Him- You actually think im dumb enough to fall for that? -grins, walks over barefoot, picks it up with her toes, arcing her foot up to grip it witrh her hand and hands it to Him- im no dummy

AVoiceofSanity -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:48:33 AM)
puts Amazonian Itching Powder Can away Oh of course your not :)

windchymes -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 5:24:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren Warren's Test: Throw panties at wall. If they stick, you like it whatever you think is happening [:D][:D][:D] And here I thought that only worked for pasta!

julietsierra -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 7:38:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren Warren's Test: Throw panties at wall. If they stick, you like it whatever you think is happening [:D][:D][:D] And here I thought that only worked for pasta! lol.. I'm so glad I wasn't the only one whose mind went there!! juliet

Focus50 -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 3:07:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitarina I know i am submissive. I always have been and always will be, but when i flip through profiles on here and start reading profiles, I immediately find myself afraid of every One i see. Dom or Domme i freeze up and shy away. So many frighten me and i dont know why. Am i just a whacko or something? i don't understand. *I think you're just new to it all and that while you know yourself* to be submissive, you can't know the dominant perspective from within. And the most common of fears is the unknown.... For sanity and perspective, you need to read MY profile - I'm the only real, twue and natural Dom on CM, or any other site.... [:-] Focus.**

julietsierra -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 4:13:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: kitarina I know i am submissive. I always have been and always will be, but when i flip through profiles on here and start reading profiles, I immediately find myself afraid of every One i see. Dom or Domme i freeze up and shy away. So many frighten me and i dont know why. Am i just a whacko or something? i don't understand. *I think you're just new to it all and that while you know yourself* to be submissive, you can't know the dominant perspective from within. And the most common of fears is the unknown.... For sanity and perspective, you need to read MY profile - I'm the only real, twue and natural Dom on CM, or any other site.... [:-] Focus.** ROFL... That's great!! juliet

Focus50 -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 6:16:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: kitarina I know i am submissive. I always have been and always will be, but when i flip through profiles on here and start reading profiles, I immediately find myself afraid of every One i see. Dom or Domme i freeze up and shy away. So many frighten me and i dont know why. Am i just a whacko or something? i don't understand. *I think you're just new to it all and that while you know yourself* to be submissive, you can't know the dominant perspective from within. And the most common of fears is the unknown.... For sanity and perspective, you need to read MY profile - I'm the only real, twue and natural Dom on CM, or any other site.... [:-] Focus. ROFL... That's great!! juliet And oddly enough, my "Who's Viewing Me" list copped a much needed "kiss of life".... [8D] Nuthin' like some covertly shameless self-promotion, ay? [8\|] I meant what I posted but.... [;)] Focus.**

Roselaure -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 6:24:56 PM)
All right, all right, I confess. I peeked at Focus' profile. It was an irresistible impulse. Now I finally know what the profile of a Twue Dom looks like (sigh).

DarkSteven -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/24/2008 8:33:06 PM)
kitarina, you're focused on the wrong problem. The true problem is that you've been in D/s relationships for six years and they're ALWAYS abusive. Your selection mechanism is broken. I'd advise getting a Dom/me or better yet a Dom couple to oversee the process and help you select someone who will not be abusive.

Missokyst -> RE: What is wrong with me? (5/25/2008 8:15:55 AM)
Exactly. Every so often I would run off to do something in haste. Every now and then as I rushed I would slam my foot (accidentally) into a large iron pot and break a toe as I ran out the door with shoes in hand. I have broken 6 of my toes over the years. Having crappy eyesight and being in a rush do not make a good combo. It never occured to me to move the potted plant on my porch, someone else did though. And it took a bit of relearning to make sure my shoes were on before I left the house. If the end result is always bad, then it is time to change the tactic. If you can't see it, maybe you need to ask someone who knows you well. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven kitarina, you're focused on the wrong problem. The true problem is that you've been in D/s relationships for six years and they're ALWAYS abusive. Your selection mechanism is broken.

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