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tulitukka -> RE: Breaking stubbornness! (10/28/2007 6:17:19 AM)
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I've heard that many women really like having chocolate after giving blowjobs. It's useful in getting rid of the taste afterwards. My girl used to do that until she found out that she just loved the taste and pleasing me so that she didn't want it anymore.
On a more serious note; you can either approach this from the training perspective, i.e. rewards and punishments. Or you can go another way, understand her psyche and get her to want it. How to do the latter depends a lot on the person (also whether it works). For my girl, what usually works is that I back off, ask her how she feels about it probing things really deep to understand what the problem is. You need to carefully think about the actual physical problems she may be having, as well as the emotional problems attached to it. Both need to be solved.. As for the emotional, backing off, but letting her know that at some point in the future she will enjoy doing that, even crave to do that. I also proceed by letting her understand how much it gives me pleasure, and that it is important to me that she can serve me in that way (and tease her about how she will come to love serving me that way). .
I may then let her explore the thing in question with her own pace for a while, to let her get positive feelings about it. In case of blowjobs, I would probably get her excited and then ask her to kiss my groin and my penis. Licking the shaft and telling her how good it feels. If she asks permission to take it in her mouth, I may refuse her to build positive anticipation for the next time. I would continue talking to her how wonderful and exciting it would be, if she can find a way to surrender that part of herself to me. And at some point the magic has happened, and I just know she's ready. When I proceed and take things the way I want them, she is happy to serve and she beams with pride for having crossed the limits she thought she had.
This kind of approach will not work with everyone, but if she has a great desire to serve and to please, you may want to give it a shot. And no matter what kind of a person she is, it's useful to understand the problems both physical and psychological that she has (makes it easier to push through them).
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