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MstrssScarlet -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/2/2008 11:40:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

Any advice would be helpful.

Alright Gladys... just remember you asked for this.

I can't make up my mind whether you're possibly the biggest moron I've ever met, or just some humiliation junky who decided being cuckolded wasn't enough he had to go get himself a big heaping helping of public denigration on the side.  But given that you've gone to the trouble of posting a profile in which you present yourself as a budding submissive... I'm gonna go with the later.

So you want your humiliation, too bad, you'll have to find it from someone else because I'm just fresh out.  Next time you want to post, get honest and save everyone else here who have busy lives from wasting their time with advice you never really wanted.  Should you get a mistress... be real, you're not asking for advice, you're asking to be told what to do, to have the decision you've already made validated.  Do I look like I validate parking?  Get a grip on your pair and make a choice, take at least enough responsibility for your own life to make your own decisions.  You want a mistress, go find one.. don't like the way your marriage has turned out... get a lawyer.  Either way, take your need for your humiliation fix and self promption back to your profile where it belongs.

I'd wish you luck out there newbie... but frankly I think whoever ends up babysitting you is the one who'll need the luck.


Ya know Padriag, I rarely find myself agreeing with you.  After perving his profile, however, I think you're dead on.  I suddenly feel used for having wasted my time on this post.
Mistress Scarlet



stella41b -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 12:00:01 AM)

But seriously... and on topic...

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

Whoops - left some stuff out.



I bet you have.

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

I have known about her involvement in the scene for a while now. I also knew about her Master, didn't like it but she said no sex was going on, and no sex has gone on yet.



Why does the phrase 'get a grip' suddenly come to mind?

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

She has had one scene with him, alone in a hotle room which she says all that happened was she was bound and some mild spanking went on, no nudity at all.



Of course she's telling the truth here.

Guess what. I'm a Nigerian princess. Bleached of course.



'Scene' and 'play' are the only things in common with community theater. Trust me. Oh of course, 'mild spanking', 'no nudity'.

Pull the other one. It's got bells on it.

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

She says her hard limits are sex,



I'd say her hard limits are open and honest communication, personal integrity, and a healthy respect for relationships. I'd say your hard limits appear to be having a clue. This would somehow exclude you from a relationship with most Dommes. Trust me.

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

but she may give oral to him or to anyone else he tells her to.



And oral isn't a sexual act? Okay, it's not sexual intercourse, but to me if it involves contact with genitalia it's sex.

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

She tells me he owns her now.



What? Just like that? I don't believe I'm reading all this, I don't believe I'm responding to it either. I've got so many questions, I honestly don't know where to start.

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

The UP side of this is that he has told her to work on her marriage to me (he is also married) and that she need to have sex with me at least 3 times a week. So there are some good sides, I guess.
This is very confusing to me.



Is this some sort of cryptic publicity stunt for a community theater comedy production about how not to start a poly relationship?

Am I way off the mark? Is the OP way off the mark? Trust me, this is very confusing for me too.

Advice? Okay. The London (Ontario) Fringe Festival 2008 has collapsed. They might be still looking for comedies. I'd take a trip down the road, find a venue, and go out on stage and tell the audience just what you've been telling us here. Just tell the organizers it's a one act, one actor comedy. Wear the same clothing, use the same prop (a handbrush) and on your knees as in the photo tell the audience the same story you've told us.

If you get a decent review PM me and I'll add you to my repertoire. Save me going to all the trouble of writing and directing a play.



stella41b -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 12:06:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I have one, Stella.. ;) Just gotta deal with the cats...L>OL



I love cats. But you never know, you might get to London first.



DesFIP -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 3:34:45 AM)

Marriage counseling.

Is she willing to do this without having sex with him? Would that be okay with you if you meet him and decide he's an appropriate person for her to know?

Are you willing to continue in the marriage with her cheating?

Even if she won't go for therapy, you should so you can think out your options more clearly.

And if you decide to make the marriage nonsexual, I don't think you pretending to be a sub is appropriate but you having a friend with whom you date and sleep is more appropriate. The way the word mistress used to be used, lower case.

Personally this would be a deal breaker for me, she's having sex with both of you without you knowing. You need to not be with her without a condom from now on because you haven't seen a very recent std scan on this dude. And I do suiggest finding a good divorce lawyer and discussing the situation before you need one.



HalloweenWhite -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 3:36:15 AM)

I'd say your wife has treated you unbelievably badly by doing this behind ypur back, it shows no respect for you as a person, or as her husband. If it were Me I'd be wondering if its worth staying married to someone who seems to have so little concern for your feelings or to the commitment you made to her when you were married.



Racquelle -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:02:58 AM)

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And personally, a man who would collar another man's wife without the three of them discussing what that means for the three of them is not a man I'd want to be involved with, even tangentially.


That right there says it ALL.  Who has she gotten mixed up with?  If it were meaningless, she wouldn't waste her time with it.

Heck, considering all the time they take up, Frenchy and I had a nice sit-down discussion when he started each of his three bands (yes, three, concurrent.)  I consider them his "girlfriends".  LOL.






SadistsSeeking -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:09:36 AM)

The first thing I would ask is are you speaking of having an affair type mistress or are you saying you think be submissive would make her feel guilty and come over to you again?  Tit for Tat doesn't necessarily work well in this situation.  In other words you becoming submissive to a woman probably won't impress her and finding another sex partner may send her to a divorce lawyer faster than you can get one.  I have been in this lifestyle for over thirty years and have found that there can be some pitfalls, here in the States, to having married subs.  Most states, I don't know about Canada, have laws about "aleination of affections."  Basically used to get the lover not your partner.  I prefer not to be embroiled in any law suits that might shed light on my position in the community, therefore, it is stated in our profile that if a prospect is married, they need to bring their spouse to a vanilla meeting prior to anything else happening.  If the spouse refuses or the prospect doesn't want the spouse to know, then that ends the whole thing right there.  Yes, I have had to break several email relationships, but better do that than end up in court paying some dude for having sex with his wife.
Hope this helps.
Sir Pain



Padriag -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:16:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Ehhh.... I might go along with the no sex thing, just because that's how all of my relationships are.

You realize you probably just ruined a few thousand fantasies.



daddysliloneds -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:20:36 AM)

what are you, 12? 



happypervert -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:21:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

. . .  but she may give oral to him or to anyone else he tells her to.


Where do I sign up for some of that?






RCdc -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 4:23:12 AM)

Do not copy another if it is not what you wish.
Do not do what another does, simply because it is what they have done, do it if it is in you to do.
Do not assume you are submissive and that taking on a dominant is correct.  It would not be fair to her, and it would not be fair to you to do something that isn't you.
Do get some guidence via therapy with and without her.
Talk to the dominant as he has control over your relationship, not you so really, you already are submitting.  Both to your wife, and to him.

As an aside - Be prepared for the fallout when he dumps her ass when he won't leave his wife for her.
 
the.dark.



Stusmobile -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 5:13:15 AM)

pick any three of the following 5 options and you will have the answer to your question;

a) A clue
b) Some balls
c) A lawyer
d) Off the drugs
e) Your suitcases packed





persephonee -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 7:07:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958
She has had one scene with him, alone in a hotle room which she says all that happened was she was bound and some mild spanking went on, no nudity at all.


She had a scene that consisted of only bondage, mild spanking, and no nudity... and now she's collared (but still no sex) and you found out after the fact.

Adding that to my list... [sm=writing.gif]

The check is in the mail.
Size doesn't matter.
It happens to every guy.
It's not a big deal.

Cali




Thank you...thank you..thank you...
im trying to think of the last spanking i got where i didnt get off.....but thats me.



Ellsa -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 7:18:00 AM)

To MAllan8958:
What is good for the goose is good for the gander.
Start hiding money in preperation for the upcoming divorce.
Several have already said something along these lines; now go do it.
ellsa



epiphany -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 8:35:52 AM)

 You are kidding, right???

  Okay, you may be new to the lifestyle, but you are not new to life!

You need to have a serious conversation with your wife. Poly would mean that ALL parties are in the know and in on the negotiations. With him being married and the two of you being a married couple, it would mean that the four of you spend time together, get to know each other, and build a relationship slowly together. That would include you and his wife having a say in what you can handle your spouse doing in a relationship of this type Consent is 4 way here.

  If he is any kind of a man (never mind Master) he would have no problem moving slowly, and talking to you about what bounderies you have for your marriage, and your wife should be fine with that. They should be okay with you watching them scene, if you want / need to do that so that you can gauge how you feel about it.

  The fact that he would collar a married woman without taking the steps to insure that he would not do damage to her  marriage speaks volumes. If he doesn't even have enough respect for you to discuss what this will include, so that you can have input, what makes you think he will care a damn about fucking her behind your back?  What makes her think he will not fuck others? Do you trust this man? Do you even know him? Are you willing to allow him to make decisions as to who you will be fluid bonded with? That shit is serious!

Where is his wife in all of this????

Insist on her taking a step back from the collar until the four of you have spent enough time with each other to decide if this is even viable. If they balk, you have a bigger problem than you think. Ask if you can watch them scene, hell...ask if you can all have dinner and talk....the reactions you get will tell you all you need to know.

  Nothing about this sounds right....or ethical, in any lifestyle.

d.epiphany



 



peppermint -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 9:21:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag

quote:

ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

Any advice would be helpful.

Alright Gladys... just remember you asked for this.

I can't make up my mind whether you're possibly the biggest moron I've ever met, or just some humiliation junky who decided being cuckolded wasn't enough he had to go get himself a big heaping helping of public denigration on the side.  But given that you've gone to the trouble of posting a profile in which you present yourself as a budding submissive... I'm gonna go with the later.

So you want your humiliation, too bad, you'll have to find it from someone else because I'm just fresh out.  Next time you want to post, get honest and save everyone else here who have busy lives from wasting their time with advice you never really wanted.  Should you get a mistress... be real, you're not asking for advice, you're asking to be told what to do, to have the decision you've already made validated.  Do I look like I validate parking?  Get a grip on your pair and make a choice, take at least enough responsibility for your own life to make your own decisions.  You want a mistress, go find one.. don't like the way your marriage has turned out... get a lawyer.  Either way, take your need for your humiliation fix and self promption back to your profile where it belongs.

I'd wish you luck out there newbie... but frankly I think whoever ends up babysitting you is the one who'll need the luck.


I gotta agree with what you've said, however, i have a feeling this is some great whank fodder for a certain little one. 



FRSguy -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 9:25:09 AM)

I would sugest you stick around here on the boards ... befriend a few Doms that you can throw questions back and forth with and just become a Dom and tell the bitch exacly what you want and how you want it... you may not ever be able to Dom 24/7 but you should be able to tell her what you want for one or two days out of the week.  Its a hell of a lot easier to do that and get what you want than to put up with the shit you are now... and by the way I can allmost guarentee she is lying to you.



HisObedientslave -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 9:57:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag

quote:

ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

Any advice would be helpful.

Alright Gladys... just remember you asked for this.

I can't make up my mind whether you're possibly the biggest moron I've ever met, or just some humiliation junky who decided being cuckolded wasn't enough he had to go get himself a big heaping helping of public denigration on the side.  But given that you've gone to the trouble of posting a profile in which you present yourself as a budding submissive... I'm gonna go with the later.

So you want your humiliation, too bad, you'll have to find it from someone else because I'm just fresh out.  Next time you want to post, get honest and save everyone else here who have busy lives from wasting their time with advice you never really wanted.  Should you get a mistress... be real, you're not asking for advice, you're asking to be told what to do, to have the decision you've already made validated.  Do I look like I validate parking?  Get a grip on your pair and make a choice, take at least enough responsibility for your own life to make your own decisions.  You want a mistress, go find one.. don't like the way your marriage has turned out... get a lawyer.  Either way, take your need for your humiliation fix and self promption back to your profile where it belongs.

I'd wish you luck out there newbie... but frankly I think whoever ends up babysitting you is the one who'll need the luck.



OUCH!!! With that said, there is some truth to what Padriag said..


*Shit or get off the pot*



Anarrus -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 10:10:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

I found out on the weekend my wife has been collared by her Master. She says she loves me and that this is just a role for her, like community theatre. We've already had a few heated discussuions about this, because of the sex aspect. I'm not thrilled with another man having sex with my wife. She says it's meaningless sex and suggested perhaps I should get a Mistress.

So my question to the group is ... should I?

I'm very curious about the scene and I'm not sure I'd make a good sub, but again I'm really really curious.

Any advice would be helpful.

Thanks.


First thing you need to do is grow some balls. Then kick her ass out the door and lock it behind her.
If you fall for the "she loves you" crap, then maybe you deserve all the bullshit she's feeding you.
As for meaningless sex..well, it's just my opinion but there's nothing done in life without meaning or reason. Meaningless sex in your situation is just bs for "I feel like getting laid but not by you".




bashfulhuck -> RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get a Mistress? (6/3/2008 12:57:06 PM)

Padriag, you just became one of my new heroes my friend LOL. Looks like he found his Mistress already, he truly is her bitch.



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