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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/6/2008 1:19:08 AM

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I think something like that should be worked out in the beginning. It deals with what areas overwhich the Dominant has control and how the chain of command works.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/6/2008 7:15:51 AM

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I am a switch, and there are times I am told not to orgasm; but it is typically just a few days before a session to build up the sexual tension. I enjoy the self control - and sometimes it takes a lot. LOL

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/6/2008 10:13:55 AM

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Goddess T > For me if i am in a dynamic and am asked to do something with in those parameters then its done plain and simple . Sure i can be bratty at times but would not dishonor the relationship with lies .Besides the power exchange is so much better with the tease denial and possible probable reward .in short why short change a great thing ,yourself, and disrespect the dynamic and the Domme . ? Shrugs ..

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/6/2008 11:57:14 AM

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Well said.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/6/2008 2:16:24 PM

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 5:50:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
I am a switch, and there are times I am told not to orgasm; but it is typically just a few days before a session to build up the sexual tension. I enjoy the self control - and sometimes it takes a lot. LOL

Just a few days is peanuts!
But weeks, for starters ,..then Wwe're talking!!!

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 5:52:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied
Goddess T > For me if i am in a dynamic and am asked to do something with in those parameters then its done plain and simple . Sure i can be bratty at times but would not dishonor the relationship with lies .Besides the power exchange is so much better with the tease denial and possible probable reward .in short why short change a great thing ,yourself, and disrespect the dynamic and the Domme . ? Shrugs ..

Did ya ever do orgasm denail for your owner??
and if you did, what was the longest time?

Thank you kindly for your answers.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 5:53:27 AM

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Well said.

Denail is the best! And
to teaze or not to b teazed that's the question!!!

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 7:29:58 AM

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Did you mention your primary interest is in tease and denial upfront? Did they share that interest? Did they agree to long term denial?

It's more than a D type issuing orders, the s type has to be willing to follow them. Which means there has to be a certain amount of compatibility and needs being met for both.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 9:55:46 AM

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Let me try to get this straight. If you are a Switch are you not also a Dom/Domme. So why would another Dom/Domme ask you not to cum without their premission? Just thinking about the stupidity of this is to much.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 10:04:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Did you mention your primary interest is in tease and denial upfront? Did they share that interest? Did they agree to long term denial?

It's more than a D type issuing orders, the s type has to be willing to follow them. Which means there has to be a certain amount of compatibility and needs being met for both.

I tell a sub upfront what it is I want,
it's in My profile too on here, so it couldn't be
any mystery on that.
Apperently it wasn't for that one.
Thanx for your responds.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 10:10:34 AM

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Yes Ma'am i sure did and have , the longest was a little more than 2 months ,For the first two weeks i was put into chastity by her then it was removed , there was plenty of tease and denial with in that time frame as well .In the end the reward was far greater and the ride was spectacular .I could have cheated many time but i would have only short changed myself .

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied
Goddess T > For me if i am in a dynamic and am asked to do something with in those parameters then its done plain and simple . Sure i can be bratty at times but would not dishonor the relationship with lies .Besides the power exchange is so much better with the tease denial and possible probable reward .in short why short change a great thing ,yourself, and disrespect the dynamic and the Domme . ? Shrugs ..

Did ya ever do orgasm denail for your owner??
and if you did, what was the longest time?

Thank you kindly for your answers.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 10:12:47 AM

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A no brainer for me...

If I am serving one...then

I don`t cum...

Thats unfortunate but I suppose thats many switches mentality...

Oh..time to cap up...WTF???

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/9/2008 1:18:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry

A no brainer for me...

If I am serving one...then

I don`t cum...

Thats unfortunate but I suppose thats many switches mentality...

Oh..time to cap up...WTF???

<strolls>

I didn't check on his brains...
it sorted itself out in time...

Have a great one!

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/27/2008 11:18:32 PM

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quote:

Let me try to get this straight. If you are a Switch are you not also a Dom/Domme. So why would another Dom/Domme ask you not to cum without their premission? Just thinking about the stupidity of this is to much.

Well Dnomyar... being a switch does mean you're a Dom/Domme, but it also means you're also the sub/slave. Just working out the logics... ;)

...with that said, there is validity to what you said, just a matter of degrees I suppose.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/30/2008 12:32:57 PM

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I must admit I would probally rebel :P I find that in order to keep me in sub mode requirs a Dom to be more strict. Any wavering and my own dom/indepenance will come out. I have a deisre to sub and that is what I seek but my natual tendancy is to rebel and do what I want. I would suggest if my Dom wanted me not to cum that they put me in chastity :P I guess I don't trust myself as much as I would like not to disobey but am more then willing to help a Dom get me undercontrol with suggestions like that. For other situations where chastity is not an option I really don't know I guess it would require training that I have yet to experiance.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 8/27/2008 8:41:52 PM

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I'm not allowed to cum without the permission of my Master. However, when I switch and become the Dominant with someone else, I am in charge, and cum as much as I like.
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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 9/7/2008 7:57:49 AM

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Wouldn't it depend if the switch in question is involved in other relationships? It's inappropriate to tell them no orgasms if you know they have a primary partner. Simply because the primary partner hasn't accepted you as his/her top.

If they are not then involved in another relationship, there is no reason they could not accept this order pro tem with the understanding that should they become involved then the order is no longer valid.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 6/30/2009 7:22:36 PM

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As I haven't had a chance to be sub yet its hard to answer this. I think I would have to say that if I were being in the dom then the rule wouldn't apply at the time. But if she were to say that we wouldn't have sex until saturday and she was going to dom that night then I could abide by the rule. I'm very independently minded and forcing something on me is very hard to do but if they weren't being domineering but just had a fun plan in mind and we were both aware and in agreement then I would happily do it. I guess because one of my fantasies is her to use a strapon on me (or a guy to do me) until my body can't control itself. I've had an orgasm without touching myself once when riding a toy and it was my most incredible orgasm I've ever had, it left me horny and wanting another one with any down time. So the fantasy is that they keep going after my first orgasm and try to get multiple orgasms from me. I think if anyone has me on all 4s and feeling very vulnerable because of it but they have me feeling very comfortable and submissive and horny and needy and they cause me so much pleasure that I have multiple orgasms like that then they would more or less own me sexually. I think if they were to get me to that point and said they were having 5 guys come over to use me at the same time then I couldn't say no.

All fantasy at this point but hope to enjoy a woman with strapon and/or a guy.

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RE: What if you switch we're asked To not longer cum wi... - 7/1/2009 6:02:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

What if your Dominant would ask of you
to not cum anymore without His/Her permission..?

Would you keep that promise or when you would
cap up go do as you please?

I ask this because this has happend with switches I met, and I felt betrayed and warn out, when I saw them cap up, and go do their own thing, so My plan of commitment, and longing never could be build upon, which orgasmdenail can do with subs.

Am curious for your answers.

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Speaking as a switch, my thoughts is that agreement which I have consented to with my dominant partner holds sway simply on the fact that I have consented to be submissive to that dominant person. Even when I am playing with another sub and they are submitting to me, I still have to keep in mind that if I am still under orgasm denial from my dominant partner that is still in place.

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