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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 3:45:19 PM

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It does not show U/us who He is at all actually. Not even a hint. Like you said, W/we do not have enough information, first and foremost. W/we do not understand why he is doing what He is doing.

And.. Most importantly, here you have before you living proof that your statement is quite possibly wildly inaccurate. I am just like Him when I am starting out on a relationship. I also open the doors and let the person in to an excellent relationship provided I feel it is safe to do so. So, you are judging someone without getting to know them and understanding their MO.

I stand by the only thing W/we have here is not enough information to make a valid conclusion.

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 5:06:11 PM

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If we take her account to be truthful, we know that he is a busy person, that he has indicated an interest in progressing into training, but yet has little to no communication between scene dates and that they have not really discussed relationship issues.

That he is busy and not very communicative between scenes is a pattern of behavior and unlikely to change.

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 6:33:37 PM

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Perhaps this should of come first:
I think that when establishing a relationship, vanilla or D/s, there should be a good deal of communication to establish the bond of trust and give the couple a solid foundation.

Before this:

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I am a novice sub, introduced to this lifestyle by a Dom who I had struck up a friendship with. We have had about half a dozen encounters, D/s sexual in nature.

He may very well want just the fun and not the responsablity

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 7:05:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If we take her account to be truthful, we know that he is a busy person, that he has indicated an interest in progressing into training, but yet has little to no communication between scene dates and that they have not really discussed relationship issues.

That he is busy and not very communicative between scenes is a pattern of behavior and unlikely to change.

When Y/you are not serious with someone, communication is not a necessity really. It only becomes a necessity once Y/you form a bond and agree to proceed to the next level. Clearly T/they have not arrived at that stage. His behaviour is not out of line in this case and not necessarily indicative of future behavioural patterns.

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 7:40:24 PM

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Wow...all of you have some seriously good thoughts on this and I have to say, to SirKenin's original post, this could well be the case. I can't rule it out at this point, but as ES2 also said, we have not established the mental as part of his dominion and we have not come to a lot of agreements...just have been getting started, so to speak.

As for Monsieur, he is a mercurial man...I do think it is within his 'repetoire' to try to mess with my mind, as he seems to know that is one sure way to kick up my adrenaline...and we all know that the response to that is "fight, flight or fuck" (please excuse the indelicacy, but we ARE being real here). And he could very well want to see what my true response would be...and he knows by now that it would be a passionate one.

I suppose as some of you have said, the jury is still out on this one. I couldn't summarize him for you here if I had ten pages...or believe me I would try. He is an enigma, what can I say? I suppose giving it a bit of time can't hurt...or maybe it can & that is what he wants, lol...

Thank y'all for the time and thought you have given to my dilemma. I do appreciate you.

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 11:29:17 PM

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And if he is not forthcoming about his true expectations or lack thereof, I am outta there. Life is too short for players who only say that they want a relationship with depth and do nothing to contribute to that.

Very wise!! It's tempting to want to cling to something that appears to have potential...I'm sure we've all done that a time or two. But potential is as potential does...

There are people out there who will be willing to contribute as much as you...Keep holding out for that.

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/28/2005 11:35:38 PM

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Y'know I'm sitting here and cant remember how many days ago it was when I had a solid night's sleep so the old eyeballs are slightly out of focus and one brain cell is hunting the other one and I'm reading this thread and damn me if the title Inconsistent Master didn't look like Incontinent Master! <RWL> However perhaps there is a connection. Could it be that an Inconsistent Master, has an incontinent attitude?

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/29/2005 5:05:41 AM

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quote:

Y'know I'm sitting here and cant remember how many days ago it was when I had a solid night's sleep so the old eyeballs are slightly out of focus and one brain cell is hunting the other one and I'm reading this thread and damn me if the title Inconsistent Master didn't look like Incontinent Master! <RWL> However perhaps there is a connection. Could it be that an Inconsistent Master, has an incontinent attitude?

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OMG..i almost peed myself laughing...pinkpleasures

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/29/2005 8:13:51 PM

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First of all...I was mixed up when I was addressing SirKenin...I was referring to something CitizenKane actually said. Sorry about the mistake...but it was because you all were making such good points and stating truth as you percieve it...none of it bad, all of it appreciated.

Update...I have spoken with him briefly, he gave me a rundown of what he has been up to and he has indeed been busy, but hopes to have some time for us to work out our kinks (pun intended!) in the very near future...he realizes my needs better than I thought. I have a good vibe about this as of now...

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RE: Inconsistent Master - 10/29/2005 8:25:57 PM

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Well, bottom line I hope this all works out. I am glad that for the most part nobody jumped in here and started spouting the rough and uneasy bullshit that usually comes here.

This doctor ruth shit is a bad deal. It doesn't appear to have been a central factor in this fluff.
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