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adorableisotope -> RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! (6/12/2008 2:26:47 AM)
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Aww man, this whole debacle is pretty terrible. In an early post, someone mentioned ab/dl specific places to go. As a DL myself, I have to say that that's not going to do much better. Unfortunately, the ab/dl community is largely populated by carnivorous men. As such, most of the women who love ab/dl things tend to stay away from them. (Oh, the stories I could tell from my former female DL friends...)
As such, there's a good, if not better, chance that disaster could strike much more easily.
It is truly a shame and a disgrace the lengths that some people will go to aquire wealth.
My only advice is to really work up the personal relationship aspect before even considering monetary compensation or gifts or anything of that sort. My main piece of advice though - look locally. Locally doesn't mean she has to live 10 miles away from you, but if she is a real person and is really strapped for cash, an offer to meet halfway between where you two live is always a good way to casually introduce yourselves on the real life front. -- and the best part is, if you DID send her gas money (even with the high cost of gas nowadays) you wouldn't be losing too much if she flaked out.
But here's a SECRET. A secret that I think a lot more ab/dls need to learn.
Be judgemental! No, not literally. But learn to pick out the potential for fetish fun. Generally, the kinkier a person is, the more willing they are to travel outside of their own kink. So if you're dating a 100% vanilla person - the kind of person who won't even have sex unless it's the missionary position and every light is off in the house - then chances are they're not going to react too well when you tell them you like diapers and baby things.
However... once a kink, always a kink. If you can get them into an "I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours," style situation, make the best of it. If you think she can handle it, broach the subject gently and informatively. I don't think we should ever have to justify our sexual deviance to another person, but in this case you will most likely have to. Be gentle, be slow.
And that advice extends very much so if she is in any way willing. Forcing your fetish on her is the number one way to ruin everything. And trust me, I know it's hard. Most of us AB's and DL's have had these fetishes/desires since we were very young, and when you find someone willing you just want to flood out all of your fantasies and desires upon them as if you haven't gone to the bathroom in a week and they are the world's biggest, comfiest, diaper. (Sorry, I couldn't refuse that metaphor.)
Take it slowly. You may ask gently if she is interested, but never, never force the subject. If she wants to, she'll volunteer or submit to gentle persuasion. Gentle is the keyword here. Gently, gently, gently. And then if/when she does indulge you, don't make it seem like she has to do it every single time you're together. Like I said, let her work her way up to her own level of comfort.
And if that's not encouraging, a statistic! People like math, right?
[I enjoy wearing and having other people wear, for the record.]
I have slept with 9 people.
Of these 9, we rule 2 of them out because they were solitary incidents. (Sigh)
So 7 people who were long term relationships.
[If a diapered sissy is traveling by train at 90mph from Cincinatti and an adult baby is driving from Dallas at 70mph, at what time will they need their diapers changed...? ---oh, wait, not that kind of math. Sorry, I'm getting all wordy!]
7 people, right. Only one of them never found out about my, er, habit. The other 6 all did. All 6 of them were willing to diaper me, after a time. 3 of them never got the chance. All 6 of them were willing to wear for me, after a time. 3 of them never got the chance.
So out of 7 true relationships, I would have been diapered by 6 of them, and I did diaper 3 of them. (I also diapered another, but our relationship was never sexual, so I guess she averages out the 6 to 7...)
Those... are not bad odds at all. If I can convince 6/7ths of the people I had serious relationships with to put me in diapers, then I think you'll be able to as well.
Chin up, buddy, you're a good looking guy! :3
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