RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends

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mysteryUS -> RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends (3/31/2004 8:19:14 AM)
Well said, Leonidas. But even the 'slave' relationship should start with clear discussions and expectations outlined, as much as is possible. Dominants who are vague, or who are not willing to discuss a general outline of what can be expected should be avoided. New slaves often feel uncomfortable with the idea of 'interviewing' the dominant, or questioning him. This is critical, as is extended interaction, before formalizing a M/s relationship. I strongly urge any new slave seeking a full-time master to have either an experienced and respected mentor to guide her/him, or to make clear to the potential master that the slave relationship/role cannot begin until a suitable period as submissive has been experienced. If he has a problem with this, or accuses you of not being a 'true slave' - run.

Leonidas -> RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends (3/31/2004 8:38:26 AM)
I made a very similar recommendation on another thread to a novice that asked. Leonidas

xrampage101 -> RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends (4/29/2015 6:20:29 AM)
I agree. Family always comes first no matter what. Remember, BDSM is only a fantasy and it shouldn't spill over into real life.

DerangedUnit -> RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends (4/29/2015 7:12:47 AM)
My family was incredibly dysfunctional, I cut myself off from them for years. Of course that would never be a doms choice, just as my idea to cut them off would never be something they could control. On the other hand I would never be with someone of the mentality that someone cut off from the world or any person is "more trouble than they are worth" that to me seems like they judge someones worth as how much money they can give them. Saying someone is worthless because they dont have family, dont live in a city, or dont have a job is more abusive in my view than someone who doesn't talk to their family. A "support system" can come in many forms. Family, friends, coworkers, a partner, partners... or oneself. The people who should be important to you are whoever doesnt use you or see a human being as a means to an end.

Moderator3 -> RE: Isolation of sub/slave from family and friends (4/29/2015 7:32:13 AM)
Well this is an oldie but goodie. Since a lot of the posters are no longer posting at least by the same nicks, I will lock this, but feel free to start another thread on the topic.

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