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Prinsexx -> RE: When the Chemistry Fades (6/13/2008 12:43:40 AM)
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I worked my way through the thread. These for me are some of the points I most agree with:
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
I believe there are two kinds of 'chemistry'. One is like dropping a packet of Mentos into a liter bottle of coke.
There is another kind of chemistry involved with the merging of iron and carbon which under fire - creates steel.
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ORIGINAL: chickpea
I think chemistry fades when the bad experiences outweight the good for whatever reasons. Then you either fix it or just go on your seperate ways and see if you can find someone else you naturally click with.
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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112
The question in the OP is, however, the wrong question--it's not what do you do when the chemistry fades, but how do you keep the chemistry from fading?
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ORIGINAL: cjan
Chemistry....includes physical attraction, shared interests and an eagerness to explore, but goes deeper....
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ORIGINAL: cjan
It's been my experience that true "chemistry", while rare, never fades, although the relationship might, for other reasons.
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist
Just becuase you had plans in the beginning-does not mean you cannot make a new plan.
That's the beauty of being creative.
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
Perhaps what you say is true for the vanilla segment of society, but is it not true that we on the path share a deepr connection than others?
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ORIGINAL: colouredin
But either way once i feel its gone then there isnt any way of mending it. Maybe its too picky and maybe its why i dont maintain relationships but what the heck.
I feel from my own experience that all of these aspects of chemistry are so. Even if somewhat contradictory these cans form part of a process. Looking over the thread I think it veered off from the original question morei to defining what chemistry was rather than what to do about it when it fades? Perhaps the original question needs such subjective answers that there could be no objective agreement as to what to do when chemistry fades other than to communicate about it. I'm thinking the other way of assessing chemistry is to ask: What happens when the chemistry doesn't go away in a vdsm relationship but all other aspects of that relationship (distance, work, UN's, and so on) cannot be worked out? (What happens when the chemistry just won't go away and you keep their contact number against all the odds?)
Worth another thread?
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