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A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 2:54:48 PM

Careless

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Hello, me and female friend have just found out about this community of M&S/D&S, my personality and way of life is pointing me towards the Dom and her the Sub. We have seen videos and movies on this subject, but i am more curious if one of you could walk me through a day of both partys dom and sub. For instance rules of the sub, habbits and other activitys you could expect in a normal day of m&s. Now i know that both partys have lives to live such as jobs and other activitys, im not naive enough to believe that a sub is chained to a wall all day, and lives just for the master( well maybe some do, i dont know thats why im asking ) but to get to the blunt point, i know nothing of the lifestyle of M&S and i am interested and curious to find out more.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 3:05:46 PM

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When Alpha and I do M/s days, which happen about once every two weeks, we have a schedule we usually follow.

8 am, I wake up, tidy the apartment, get breakfast started if Alpha will wake soon.
9 am, get showered and dressed, prepare the living room for any kind of scene we'll do later in the day
10 am, if Alpha isn't awake by 10 I usually sit and watch tv, read a book, post to this forum, whatever.

It all depends on his mood whether or not we start playing right away or we watch a movie or have a conversation. usually by midday we're both worked up to the point where we want to do some bondage and s&m. When we're done with that it's time to start dinner. We may play again in the evening but it's typically a movie, I sit on the floor in front of him and get him things to drink, eat, etc.

When I was in school and also working, we'd shorten the "slave days" considerably to account for my homework and such, but now that it's summer my days off are usually devoted to having fun, and having fun means time with Master.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 3:54:41 PM

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For us two switches these days- I get up about 8:10 and do my morning toilette. Get dressed, snuggle with my partner who is usually in bed for snuggles or turning on his computer. I drive to work, where I remain until I get home a little after 5:30. He usually works at home or goes to meetings or work sessions, gets the mail, sometimes will drop stuff at the recycling center or do a quick grocery stop.

Once home, I usually cook dinner while he does online stuff. We eat together watching tv. After dinner, on alternate days we go to the gym or we just hang out/go grocery shopping. We have monthly meetings we go to during the week as well, and occasionally he'll go to a concert on his own.

Then, by about 11ish we start getting ready for bed, where we usually snuggle, have sex, maybe play around a bit, and get to sleep by 12:30.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 6:12:29 PM

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The alarm on my cell phone goes off for the first time at 6:30 AM. I roll over and wake him up and ask him if he wants 15 more minutes; lately he has said "15 more minutes" before I can even ask. The next alarm goes off at 6:45 AM and he gets up. Since he is laying in the middle sometimes Alandra and I have to help push him out of bed. Then about 5 to 7, Alandra's alarm goes off and she gets up to have a little quiet time in the kitchen before she has to wake the kids. My alarm goes off at 7:30 AM.

Everyone in the house is up by 7:30 and it becomes a noisy, crowded space to eat breakfast, pack lunches and get ready to leave. The kids go off to school and then he and I go off to work and Alandra will either work taking care of the house or go to her job.

Then we are all usually home from school and work by 5:30 - 6:00. Dinner is usually at 6 and we try to all sit and eat together as often as possible. Of course, some evenings are filled with soccer practice, dance classes, swimming practice, etc.

The day usually ends about between 10 - 11 PM. Most often it ends with a soak in the hot tub. This has become a time for the three of us to be alone and catch up on things or just to talk with each other. I put out his clothes for the next day, then we go to bed, have sex and then sleep to start the whole crazy cycle over again.

Saturdays and Sundays are a little different... in the mornings we all have breakfast together, do chores around the house, go on picnics, go shopping, go to the library, etc. Saturday evenings, we try to spend time in the dungeon, even if only to give him a massage. Sometimes we are treated and get to play.

It is a pretty simple life. The undercurrent though is that he has all the authority. He makes the decisions that he wants to make and delegates to Alandra and I the things that he is not interested in. We address him as "my Lord", ask permission to talk to him, ask permission to spend money, ask permission to have certain things, serve him in certain ways, etc. We share the same bedroom and the same bed.

We don't look much different than anyone else, except that there are three adults in the house. Unless people are really paying attention (which they usually don't), they don't perceive the authority structure in the relationship.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 6:22:04 PM

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Thank you all of your links have been very helpful.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 6:43:30 PM

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you can watch all of the videos and movies but will only find that's basically fantasy. an average day in a D/s M/s varies from relationship to relationship.

for example in mine with Daddy - we chat online before He dashes out the door to the office and then when He returns homes. some days i remind Him about His scheduled such as tennis on Tuesdays or bi-monthly meetings on Wednesdays.

meanwhile, i work on reviews and upload photos for the my website, answer band and fan mail and/or appear at the radio to do interviews and pick up more CDs. some nights, i'm working/partying until dawn with bands (i get paid to smooze to do that) PLUS while juggling that, i'm handling a brain injured teen and an over-active kindergartener as well as cooking, cleaning, fighting with the ex, laudry, etc

...oh my gawd - i lead a VERY boring life! nothing like those movies huh? where do i find the time to enjoy BDSM activities? good question! i do make time for Daddy (as well as the local dominant i'm dating) but that's after my girls and their needs are taken care of first.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 7:11:20 PM

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A typical day this time of the year is us waking up and i'll make breakfast. Then we do our emails and have computer time. We may have a doctor appointment or a physical therapy appointment in the morning. When we come home he'll decide if we want to work on the rental trailer the last tenant trashed...or perhaps he'll work on a craft like making a flogger. I'll wash clothes, do dishes, pick up the house....and in the evening make dinner. Then it's more computer time...we're addicted to playing Pogo games...or we'll go to the gym to work out...then bedtime.

During the day at intervals he might order me to come to him and give him a hug or kiss. He'll tickle me at times. In other words if you were here you'd see a typical couple doing typical things for the most part. The routine was different last Saturday as we attended munch. In July we'll be at a week long BDSM camping event. We do play on some days....or i'll be a stunt dummie for teaching a new Dom how to swing a flogger.

Today it's snowing...been snowing since we woke up. It is not a day to work outside or on the trailer that has no heat. So, after saying good bye to a Dominant friend who was visiting for a couple days, we've been goofing off for the most part as it's too miserable to do much. Not much room in the motor home to spread out and do crafts inside. He has suggested that later he might want to go to the gym and soak in the hot tub. He's also said that this would be a good day for him to shave and wax me which is something he likes to do himself.

In other words....our day is rather typical and really ordinary. What is different is the underlying dynamic which is always present. He is the king of the household. He is boss. I am here to keep him company and to make his day easier.

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RE: A day in the life of.... - 6/10/2008 9:49:56 PM

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I have been doing alot of reading since iv posted this on the daily lives of M&S and it reminds me alot of the households back in the day, male figure the head of the house, has all the power and what not, female( and other members of the household) are under his protection, his authority and his rule. After all this help i really do think i will try and get started in this lifestyle ( i am secretly glad it is not all hand cuffs and whipping) I am glad you also have normal relationships with your master, and some even get married.

thanks for all the help i think you guys just gained another member to your community :) Now all i need to do is get some help on being the master, i am the dominate in the realtionship but i dont know how to be it if you know what i mean.

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