HerJewel
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Joined: 7/22/2005 Status: offline
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I don't really like labels much, but they serve to help people quickly put you in a category that they can then deal with. When someone very shy, reserved and 'helpful' can also be very assertive when the need arises, to meet my own or someone elses needs, some people become all discombobulated. I've been called a switch by dommes, and dominant by submissives, and it doesn't bother me, really. I just like being myself. Just as my gender expression is usually 'tomboyish', and when someone 'dresses' me up, I am met with alot of incredulous stares and comments. This does not deter me from being myself, however I feel like or need to be in the moment. I think fluidity is a wonderful thing, and going with the flow, of energy, or demands or appropriateness of a situation simply shows adaptability, and this is a good thing, I think. I always think of the analogy my Psych professor gave us for adaptability. One changes their 'dance' according to the music that is playing, instead of dancing the same dance to different songs, expecting others to accomodate their only style. I think adaptability, fluidity, learning and growing to get along well in life, and to be true to onesself and genuine with others iswhat we should concern ourselves with, not other people's opinions or labels of us.
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