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Aestus -> Is it normal to be annoyed by the majority of female dominants? (6/10/2008 6:11:12 PM)
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This thread might offend some people, but don't worry about it, it'll make you stronger. If it's unbearable, you could always try the technique of mocking me in order to ease this feeling; it's supposed to be very effective.
Now, to the point. I'm among those who supports the idea of women in charge. However, it stops at that, the idea. When it comes to the practice of it, I can't bring myself to feel anything other then hate for it. Why? Part of me is convinced that women make lousy dominants. There, I said it. And what would make me say something like that? That takes much more than a simple sentence to answer. I think I'll sum it up by listing some trends and traits I've made note of through the years. Yes, this is anecdotal evidence, but there's judge around to dismiss it, it'll do. Here we go:
-Ego: Humans are self-serving by nature, but to differing degrees. Balance is important. Some people are too self-less, while others are too selfish, both can be very unhealthy. Why am I even telling this, you already know it. Dominants can often be among the latter, and female dominants seem to have a habit of going to the unhealthy extreme more often. Only among females is it common to claim to be of divine or noble blood. You see these goddesses and princessess so often you'd think commoners were a dying breed, yet you don't see any gods or kings. Yes, I'm sure they exist, I just haven't seen them yet. Using your dominance as a trade is also something only females seem to have gotten around to, and I do believe it takes an unhealthy amount of ego to believe that you are entitled to money for abusing someone. Entitlement, by the way, is another funny part. Women of low self-confidence quickly notice that here they can be on demand, simply for being a dominant female, no matter what amount of negative qualities she bears with her. Instead of seeking a healthy way to get over her insecurities, she'll use the attention she gets here like a drug, never really feeling better, but getting illusions of being cared for because she suddenly gets all the ego-boost she could ever wish for. Of course, it's possible to already have a over-inflated ego by the time you discover this site, and then rejoice in finally finding a community where it's accepted to be so self-absorbed.
-Disinterest: On this subject, I can refer to some obvious facts that everyone should already know. There are much more female submissives than female dominants. There are much more male submissives than female dominants. So females generally are less interested in being dominant. But even among the female dominants that can't quite turn the numbers around, it's not perfect either. I have the impression that female doms are less loyal to their subs. Cuckolding, for example, is an activity I've never seen a maledom/femsub equivalent of. And I only see intentional negative wording toward potential partners in the profiles of female dominants. Female submissives are completely safe from having insults directed at them from just looking through profiles. Calling someone a "worthless pig" isn't exactly a way to show sincere interest in someone.
-Lack of charm: This is both a question of beauty and of character. I suppose you could treat it as an extension of the poorly justified entitlement complex I spoke of earlier. Yes, here you can see another ugly quality of mine, I'm demanding. But we all are, we want someone who we find attractive, object to this, and I will personally call you a liar. For some reason, dominant women ..well, they seem to be on average among the less attractive. Could be that they grow insecure, and therefore find the dominant role to be an escape from this, without realizing how unhealthy it is. But this is only speculation, so I won't talk anymore about it. Character, however, is easier to talk about. After all, who needs a good personality when you get all the cute subbies you want with a bad one?
Um, I think I have to end this before I forget the point of it. Wait, it never had any point to begin with. Sorry. I think I just wanted to get this off my chest without hiding behind a false mask of respect. If anyone could convince me that those who identify as female dominants aren't really that bad, it'd be awesome. If you're just here to insult me, that's fine too, I guess.
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