Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: darkeangelique I was trying to be respectful to those who remain nameless, and have the right to remain such if only one party seeks calrification and honesty and advice. Yes i was/am after advice. No i did not mean the scenario to be tilted to the sub. i was trying to be lighthearted should the persons involved recognise the thread and feel threatened by the reality of the content. i was approaching a sensative topic in a way that was a little distancing and obvioulsy not accepted here. I have learned (again) and will be more forthright should i decide to post again : ) sub had expressed that she could not (would not) engage in acknowledging her Dom in all aspects of her life because of previous public negative actions on his part that would cause her friends and family to disown her if she continued any type of relationship with her Dom. Some behaviours are not acceptable here or otherwise and whilst i chose not to disclose them, i hope that thiose reading will accept the concept that is implied. sub does not mean to denigrate or otherwise mean to dishonour the Dom in question. Rather she seeks to understand if she is indeed a "fake" a "wannabe" or a "twit" and has no right, rhyme or reason to consider that her understanding of being a sub is valued or verified. she thinks and wants a valued 24/7 relationship behind closed doors that can be expressed in general public as a loving partnership. It's probably me but I'm finding this thread more difficult to follow as more information is given. I'm not even sure if you're the actual sub talking in 3rd person so my apologies if you've said as much as my "difficulty" has meant I haven't read everything you've posted. But a few points nonetheless.... quote:
Dom wants children and a public realtionship. sub cant give either, expressed as such and encouraged Dom to find a lady who can give Him what she cant. Dom is not happy. Threatens sub with "outing" her through photos that just happened to be uploaded by a hacker from his server.... Now this is immaturity at its ugliest and most malicious! In fact, assuming it's true, it's testament that this arse should never breed or, failing that, should not be involved in how the kid is raised. And speaking of corny soap opera sub plots (unintentional pun, btw), a "hacker" just happened to upload personal/intimate photos at just the time this "dom" is threatening leverage, indeed, *blackmail*??? Yikes, that's actually inconveniently cornier than when the engine never starts everytime a car is needed most...! Or the rescued maiden sprains her ankle while being chased.... *groan* quote:
Dom is a good man. HE has much to offer. When He loves He loves. When e angers, He is angry. And yet you keep offering evidence as to why he orta be institutionalised....! Or she should for defending this abusive crap! quote:
Sub now has no where to go. No kink friends to seek solace from Doesn't she have you? Small wonder I keep defaulting to thinking you're the sub concerned.... quote:
So for those of you thinking she is scatty insecure and weak...please PM me becasue i am scaredof losing what i have and need as many different views of thins as i can get so that i dont sink in the mind games. First "she", then "I".... *sigh* I don't think she's weak at all. This sounds like textbook abused spouse rationale. They're the first to say "they have no options", "have nowhere to go", "there's no way out" etc.... IE, they contribute to their own misery by enabling! And that's the first step out - to refuse to be a victim, or his victim anymore. I can only help by saying she (or you) needs to be out of his life more than any "outing" can ever harm you! Focus.
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Never underestimate the persuasive power of stupid people in large groups. <unknown> Your food is for eating, not torturing. <my mum> (Errm, when I was a kid)
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