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LuvnFemAuthority -> Pussies! (6/13/2008 5:36:52 AM)

This is perhaps more a rant than a question.  I need this off my chest.  I am sick to death of male subs that can't make a decision to save their lives.  I ask for three things that are very rare in a submissive partner (you'll have to look at my profile for more detail): intelligence, empathy, and maturity.  Yah I know this is hard to find in the vanilla crowd never mind in the bdsm world.  But I am clear in what I want on my profile why the fuck do I keep getting jackoffs that wouldn't know any of the above emailing me?  (rhetorical question)  I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented.  Yah sure the heart and mind are much harder than the body but that's what you signed on for when you messaged me.  Fuck!  I am tired of this.  I am tired of having my heart broken.  I'm tired of investing so much time and effort into someone that can't get his act together and/or has no idea what he wants.  To all of you jacking some Domme around: fuck you. I hope you die alone.




Dnomyar -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 5:47:14 AM)

Mmmm someone get a wedggie in their panties. Wear a halter top so you don't have to carry your heart on your sleave. Look at the bright side. After this post all of the submissives who have posted that there are no Dommes avaliable will come after you.




BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 5:52:31 AM)

Well I can only speak for myself, but I am intelligent, an empath and most of the time I'm reasonably mature. [;)]  

I'm also a very happily collared slave. [:)]

Sounds like someone needs a hug.    Not you Ray, the OP. 


*hugs Ray anyway, just in case he needed one*




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 6:27:34 AM)

Well A) this is an internet site, I'm not sure who told you to expect most people online to act mature and responsible, but they were definitely lying and you should not have believed them

B) If YOU keep getting involved with dorks, then YOU need to work on YOUR screening method

C)  Whiny tantrumy doms are really unattractive




Dnomyar -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 6:45:12 AM)

Angle than you for the hug. I will take them anytime. Mmmm guys ignore what I just said.




chiaThePet -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 6:49:16 AM)

Damn! Thought this was going to be a much hotter topic.

I just hate the bait and switch OP.

Pussy.

chia* (the pet)




beargonewild -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 6:59:12 AM)

OP, Gee, so ya think just because being part of BDSM is a magic pill that helps you find the perfect subbie man, sorry to burst your bubble but it ain't. Surely you have the brains to realize that idiots are found in every walk of life and it's no different in WIITWD. Suck it up princess and try using a bit more patience and common sense. Think back to how many times your heart was broken in the vanilla dating world in your younger years and see that it happens here also. People are people which means they are fallible, this includes men, women doms, dommes, subs and slaves. If you don't want to take the time and effort to invest in someone, then plan on living a life alone and filled with regrets of not taking one more chance on the next guy who could be the right one for you.




beargonewild -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 7:00:44 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Damn! Thought this was going to be a much hotter topic.

I just hate the bait and switch OP.

Pussy.

chia* (the pet)


That's women for ya chia, they are EVIL I tell ya....evillllll! 
*grins*




GreedyTop -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 7:17:03 AM)

but... but... Bear! I thought you and I had something SPECIAL!!




beargonewild -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 7:18:34 AM)

Awwwww   Greedy we will always have something special!
*gropegropemolesticate*




LuvnFemAuthority -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 7:31:27 AM)

I can agree with "B".  I am not a whiner.  I am having a bad day and I'm really hurt.  Everyone is allowed to have that.  I wasn't looking for sympathy or a bitch slap either.  I just needed to vent. 

This was a situation that was going on for 2 1/2 months.  We met.  We clicked.  Then he panicked.  I am just tired of people that can't step up the plate.  If you like it, want it, you match someone, then have the balls to follow through. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Well A) this is an internet site, I'm not sure who told you to expect most people online to act mature and responsible, but they were definitely lying and you should not have believed them

B) If YOU keep getting involved with dorks, then YOU need to work on YOUR screening method

C)  Whiny tantrumy doms are really unattractive




DesFIP -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 7:37:28 AM)

If you can't get anyone you meet to submit to you, then maybe the problem isn't them but you. Remember, you are the only constant in all of your relationships.




Dnomyar -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 8:59:58 AM)

Thank you celeste for only calling me a constant. Op be glad that all the tomatoes are being recalled.




selena123 -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 9:16:31 AM)

First of all a big hug, next it's okay (at least to me) if you vent here online. Many times we can't tell our vanilla folks this stuff so isn't that why we're here?  for support and a little understanding. Doms, Dommes, Masters and Mistresses are allowed to have feelings and emotions, just like vanilla folks, so I wouldn't feel good calling you a whiner or kicking you while you're already down. I would gently suggest re evaluating your methods to see if there are changes you can make to improve your luck, since you can't change other people (at least not until you own them LOL) good luck to you and vent all you want
Selena  




LadyLynx -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 9:44:14 AM)

Well it can take a long while to find The One.  And while FemDoms have it alittle easier, (because there are alot of male subs to choose from.) it can be a long road to travel. So, OP like the others have mentioned: look into yourself, see if there is anything that should be changed? examine past relationships, was the end result the fault of the other, or were you at fault as well. (vanilla relationships as well.) 




eepsy -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 10:03:15 AM)

Sorry to hear that things didn't work out

Then again...

If he didn't have the guts to follow it through, it is either that he had not been honest all this while and had been hiding/lying about something or simply that he lacks the personality and confidence required. Honestly, i think it's a blessing in disguise to find out early...




Leatherist -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 10:05:06 AM)

You must have asked them to do windows. [:D]




SaraZeal -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 1:08:34 PM)

Might be a trust issue. If I just met someone and it went hardcore right off the bat I'd be pretty weirded out, especially not being used to it at all. It's not like I jump in and out of relationships all the time, vanilla or not.

I'd need a while online, and in person, to trust someone enough to do whatever it is they want. Trusting blindly isn't for me. By a while, I don't mean years, but maybe a couple days/weeks to know them enough (depends on how often we meet, I don't move out to someone's place on day 1).




Aiden -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 2:29:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuvnFemAuthority
*cut for brevity
But I am clear in what I want on my profile why the fuck do I keep getting jackoffs that wouldn't know any of the above emailing me?  (rhetorical question)  I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented.  Yah sure the heart and mind are much harder than the body but that's what you signed on for when you messaged me.  


Sorry you're having such bad experiences. 
How much does a person sign on for merely be sending an email?  To me, the first one is just a hello and tenative way of saying maybe we should talk, no commitments on either party's part beyond that. 

~aiden




petdave -> RE: Pussies! (6/13/2008 3:06:26 PM)

Well, just going by your profile... i sincerely don't know how you would cut the line between "naturally submissive (both in the bedroom and out" and a "goddamn pussy". No idea. If what you mean is "must be submissive to me, but an aggressive, confident go-getter to everyone else", then you should go ahead and say that. Feel free to throw in "leader of men, slayer of dragons" too... i'm trying to give the phrase some legs.

And cheer up, it's friday!




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