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buffiyum -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 7:26:03 AM)

Aside from the fact that my real name is not buffy it is all true. When i began in the net, the MSN prompted for a 'name' and strongly suggest that one should not use their real name but make one up so i did. i am not ashamed or afraid of my real name but their suggestion made sense to me and also i must say that i do like the name buffy a lot. It suits me somehow. As to the real things that do count, well, why lie eh? It all comes out in the end anyways, once a Oone meets the Oother. Its just easier and less messy to start off with the truth and go on from there.
my real name has a capital g which sure seems odd now.
buffy




hawk58 -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:51:16 AM)

Nope. If I lie about who we are, and what we are seeking- how can I expect to find what we want?




FTopinMichigan -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 1:34:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Beatmehrdr
"I am the bestest, truest, most loyal sub you will ever meet" is puffery. "I know how to change the brakes on a '96 Buick" is lying.


I know how to change the brakes on my '86 Buick! [:D] Seriously!

K




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 2:06:38 PM)

Dangit, K, you beat me to it!

:)F




WomensPet -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 2:10:45 PM)

Okay...I Made one thing up....buit only one, the fact that i think Women should dominate over ALL men is true and that i would do Anything to Please My Mistress is also true




Misstoyou -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:06:04 PM)

By omission. I have *many* more interests than I've listed [;)], but I've found understatement helps control the "do me" subs.




Noah -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:10:10 PM)

Lie in a profile? Awful.

But like, it's different if you are including some well-intentioned fictional elements to like actually, you know, portray deeper truths, truths so deep that when we finally meet in person, I'm sure my one will recognize and appreciate immediately the true depth of these deeper truths, completely overlooking shallow and ultimately inconsequential things like the height thing or the job thing or the color of my breath or my little tiny shrivelled ...

My age? Just a sec. I'll look it up. We met on alt, right?







MHOO314 -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:21:55 PM)

nope, not a tad, My journal even solidifies whats in My profile, I dont have the time to provide a charade, however, I am weary of the multitudes that do.




LadiesBladewing -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:26:33 PM)

I've noted that a few people here have said that they think that they were "too honest" in their profiles? Does such a thing exist?

This is purely opinion, but I don't think it is possible to be -too- honest. I think that we can be completely honest, and what we are will turn some people off, or they won't be interested in some of the things we're interested in. So what? Not everyone has to agree with what I do, but I'll be damned, I -certainly- want the people with whom I -do- become involved to know what they're getting themselves into. If we're not a good fit, pretending to be something I'm not (or them pretending to be something -they- are not) will only work as long as neither of us has to actually -interact- with one another. Once we have to actually spend time together and shape a relationship, any lies, deceits or misrepresentations will show themselves. It may take time, but we have all of that that we need. If it works today, it will work tomorrow. There is no need to rush. Shaping perfection takes time. *grins* But, to quote a very trite L'Oriel commercial in a bit of ironic play on truth and honesty -- at least where appearance is concerned, I'm worth it.

BTW... our physical appearance isn't described in our profiles, and we don't ask about physical appearance when we plan an interview with someone. What they -are- is crucial, everything else is transient for us -- as my mother used to say, "if you want to make omelets, you have to crack a few shells", and what is a body but the shell covering one's "being".

Lady Zephyr




LadiesBladewing -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:34:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Kasia


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ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan

In a business sense, I've been told to remove my graduate degree from my resume, as I may appear to be overqualified with too much education.

I am really interested - overqualified for what?


Actually, when I was looking for work (a job to help support my family while I do my Abbey work on the side, which doesn't pay) I was told the exact same thing by 3 separate Employment Coaching services. I was told that since I wasn't looking for a job in my field, the presence of my advanced degrees would cause HR recruiters to consider me "overqualified" for positions at the level that I was applying (I wanted a day job that I didn't have to bring home, so that I could spend my off hours focusing on the things that truly speak to me.) I was told to leave off my advanced degrees, and downplay any parts of my job experience that weren't directly relevent to the positions I was applying for.

The rationale, as it was explained to me, is that HR recruiters would see my degrees as evidence that I wouldn't be "satisfied" with the jobs at the level I was applying for, and therefore, would be a poor risk for retention and, perhaps, would expect more pay than they were willing to offer.

Lady Zephyr




Grimalkin -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/3/2005 8:44:33 PM)

Re: lying...here of all places? Why? What does one hope to gain? Should this not be the one place for total honesty?
Should you feel the need to lie to me, please do not waste your time and considerably lessor skills.
I am not interested in a man who purports to be a submissive, when in reality he is afraid to be who he really is and proud of it.
Then again, I am told it takes all kinds to make the world what it is.




FTopinMichigan -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 6:07:41 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing
The rationale, as it was explained to me, is that HR recruiters would see my degrees as evidence that I wouldn't be "satisfied" with the jobs at the level I was applying for, and therefore, would be a poor risk for retention and, perhaps, would expect more pay than they were willing to offer.


This IS the rationale behind it...and I know, as I'm that HR professional. [:D] Kinda ironic for me, but I used to look at resumes that way for years. I had a medical doctor coming to apply for an unskilled labor job once. I thought it quite strange, until I decided to interview him for a job in the lab. I figured he had the skills, without doubt, but something was wrong. He WAS a doctor, but not in the US, and he was unable to get his credentials accepted here. Because he was a "doctor," he was unable to get a job, because of how others viewed him. He needed to work, to support his family, regardless of his education, degree and past experience. I hired him, but couldn't pay him what he was more than probably worth. He was grateful, and turned out to be one of the best workers in the lab.

I don't judge resumes like I did in the past anymore. Some people can't do them...some pay others to do them, and like profiles, most of the stuff is inflated, BS, or more than needed for the job. I like talking to the person. And in life....I'd much rather meet a man via a munch or party, then from an online personals site, but it's good to keep the options open. [;)]

I see the resume, and personal's profile, as a way to grab someone's attention. More thought should be put into the introduction and approach, IMO.

K




Grimalkin -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 9:14:05 AM)

Ommission is one thing...as long as one does not lie when in a relationship or the "courting" time to set one up.
Bloody hell...the Brit in me is dominant, isn't it...lol

Oh well, manners are nice and needed even when not behind closed doors [;)]

TTFN...roflmao




subrdn8 -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 2:13:54 PM)

People apparently think I lie about my height. I'm 5'11". Then we meet, and they say "WOW, you really ARE 5'11" " Why would I lie about a thing like that, or anything else if I have any intention of actually meeting the person?




truesubboy -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 4:46:30 PM)

I have never lied on a profile or during one of those rare instances when granted the honor of contacting a potential Domme. I'm always honest with everyone here and in my off line life. Lying benefits no one here or elsewhere.




DougDammitt -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 7:37:35 PM)

Never lied on my profile. I am what I am - take it or leave it. I guess I am one of the few who are happy being themselves.




Misstoyou -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/4/2005 7:51:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Grimalkin

Ommission is one thing...as long as one does not lie when in a relationship or the "courting" time to set one up.
Bloody hell...the Brit in me is dominant, isn't it...lol

Oh well, manners are nice and needed even when not behind closed doors [;)]

TTFN...roflmao


Lol. Generally, my type of domming is more free-formed. My individual submissives inspire what in my arsenal I want to bring out...um, I mean which of my varied interests I want to indulge. And the best ones lead me to explore new directions.

So the legal contractual expression "including, but not limited to" works for me. [:)]




Delvin -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/5/2005 2:40:07 AM)

If they lie on their profile, why would they tell the truth here ? :)

eh, a lie is a lie, welcome to the weeding out process

D




Kasia -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/5/2005 3:02:29 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

I've noted that a few people here have said that they think that they were "too honest" in their profiles? Does such a thing exist?

Well, by being too honest I meant that I actually wrote exactly what I need - a sextoy for ocassional meetings.
I could put only that I am interested in subs and then when they apply step by step convince them into what I truly want. I can do that, and I have done that, and its not a real trouble. I met people on other sites and they had some "limits" but when I chatted with them for a while and showed on cam all those limits were gone.

Why I didnt do so here? Because I am just not into games playing mood lately. I am being honest and sincere to the point of cruelty, although I am quite able to sugar things up when I want to.




ExistentialSteel -> RE: Have You Lied on Your Profile? Why? (11/5/2005 3:25:40 AM)

When I first went online with AOL, I thought the profile thing was private info that AOL needed. I didn't realize that others could read it. Yeah, yeah, I know the little statement on there about how it is visible to others, etc., but I really didn't see or comprehend it. So I put my real name and hometown down.

Now, you have to realize that I would frequent rooms named things like "Subs Seeking Whatever." I would chat or maybe cyber is a more accurate word with someone named Submissive Sally and later that night get phone calls from her. I would have no idea how in the world she found my name and number. One sub was into having her head shaved and I had casually talked in the room with her. One night about 2 AM my phone rings and she says, "Tell me how you would cut my hair." Being the smart guy I am, I finally figured out having your real name and hometown on there was not a good thing. I'm just happy they didn't have me list my credit card number, date of birth and mother's maiden name.




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