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abcbsex -> Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 11:45:16 AM)

My Dom/husband, Alpha, has asked me to help him lost weight. His back is in bad shape because of the pounds he's put on in the last few years and we want to stay as healthy as we can for as long as possible, that much we've agreed on. I asked him how he wanted me to help accomplish this and he said two things. 1, he wants us to start cooking healthier foods, which is easy. 2, he wants me to remind/encourage him to exercise. We're starting out with walking and working up.

So here's my dilemma. How do I remind/encourage exercise in a way that doesn't sound like nagging or demanding? Lately I've had some attitude problems (not dealing with communication problems in a mature way) and I really don't want to fall into that trend with this. Anyone got any suggestions?

I can see how this might sound like he's asking me to be a mother figure, but he's really just one of those people who needs a reason to exercise (PE class was great). I guess another question would be, anyone got any fun exercise we can do? besides sex, lol.



GimpinDenial -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 11:50:47 AM)

Run in front of him naked or in your sluttiest lingerie?

Seriously though...

don't keep to a set routine (like walking every morning ) mix it up, bike riding, hiking in the afternoon.

If he likes cars, take him to a car show so that he walks around alot without realizing it's a workout. Also, a backpack with a little bit of weight (such as a bag of sugar/flour) helps at times....

If he doesn't mond window shopping... goto the mall and walk for a few hours....



MistressSybella -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 11:55:50 AM)

You can request that he set up an exercise schedule and then faithfully ahere yourself to it. For example, when "excercise time" arrives, you can present yourself to him, with your exercise clothing and shoes on. Then, politely say, "I'm ready, as ordered, Sir." Or, something along those lines. ;) He'll come to expect that you'll be there and will likely anticipate that expectation...which in turn, should motivate him.

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



abcbsex -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 11:57:46 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressSybella

You can request that he set up an exercise schedule and then faithfully ahere yourself to it. For example, when "excercise time" arrives, you can present yourself to him, with your exercise clothing and shoes on. Then, politely say, "I'm ready, as ordered, Sir." Or, something along those lines. ;) He'll come to expect that you'll be there and will likely anticipate that expectation...which in turn, should motivate him.

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



Thank you very much for that suggestion, I think a routine like that will help immensely.



MistressSybella -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 12:23:35 PM)

You are very welcome. I'm delighted. :)

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



sirsholly -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 1:11:10 PM)

i recommend blowing a referee whistle in his ear at say...about 5am. Run as fast as you can with him hot on your heels.

Actually not. What we try to do every chance we get is to plan something fun that is also physical. A trip to the mall or taking the little one to the local park and parking faaar away from the enterance.  I keep threatening to sign his two left feet up for a dance class, etc.
If an exercise is not fun we will not stick to it. Sometimes you have to get creative....



DominantJenny -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 1:42:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressSybella

You can request that he set up an exercise schedule and then faithfully ahere yourself to it. For example, when "excercise time" arrives, you can present yourself to him, with your exercise clothing and shoes on. Then, politely say, "I'm ready, as ordered, Sir." Or, something along those lines. ;) He'll come to expect that you'll be there and will likely anticipate that expectation...which in turn, should motivate him.

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell


THAT *waggles finger at post* is bloody brilliant!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 4:41:02 PM)

Hello abc,
Classes are good - you can usually find some at a community center - tai bo, ballroom dance, swimming (or basic life guarding), fencing... mix it up....

get a dog - always walk it after dinner together.  go for hikes (with some fresh veggies and then have a picnic that you grill), take the bus instead of driving to work.  learn about the constellations and go outside into a field to look at them.... get a plot in a city garden if you live in the city or make a garden in your own home... volunteer to wheel old people around at the senior center, carry groceries in the little plastic basket instead of the big cart.   there are all kinds of fun ways to integrate exercise into your life.... oh and.... shhhhhhhh lose the remote control   *winks

good luck,
sunshine



d1ll1gaf -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 6:21:44 PM)

The best way I find to get exercise is to make it something useful. For example, I have taken to riding my bike to work (about 10 miles) instead of driving because of the high cost of gas.. and the amazing thing is that because I no longer have to fight rushhour traffic or the bus crowds I actually get to work faster. If I lived much further away I would probably drive part way and then bike the rest.

For something like this you can help him simply by making it easier to do. Neatly fold and pack his work clothes in his bag along with lunch etc. This way he simply needs to grab the bag on the way out.

One thing to consider is that he may be disappointed with the slow pace of weight loss exercise brings. While exercise will rapidly improve his health it won't necessarily cause him to lose weight unless their is a dietary change as well. For this simply look for ways to make his favorite foods healthier (i.e. choose lean cuts of meat instead of fatty ones and cook them slower).



CruelDesires -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 8:08:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
oh and.... shhhhhhhh lose the remote control   *winks

good luck,
sunshine


LOL. That's just wrong.

CD



abcbsex -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/16/2008 10:37:57 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
oh and.... shhhhhhhh lose the remote control *winks

good luck,
sunshine


LOL. That's just wrong.

CD

lol we don't even have tv, but if we did I'd be fine with an "accidental" misplacement. I'm good at forgetting where I put things!



Aileen1968 -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/17/2008 3:56:11 AM)

Go through the house and remove any foods that are unhealthy.  Throw it all out.  Fill the fridge with fruit and veggies.  Cut up a fruit salad.  Cut up peppers and cukes and stuff like that so that it's easily accessible for when a craving hits.  No soda of any kind.  Diet is the worst.  Drink water only.  Condiments and salad dressings have a ton of hidden calories.  No fast food.  No prepared foods (frozen meals in a box).  They're loaded with sodium.   
Walking is a great exercise and something you can both do together.
It only takes trimming 250 calories a day along with burning an extra 250 in order to lose a pound a week.



MissEnchanted -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/17/2008 6:52:49 AM)

abcb:
 I have asked my 2 subs to help me lose weight and get back in really good shape.

Getting rid of all the chips and cookies in the house is the first step for me. I have plenty of fruit here and organic veggies, so we are prepared to eat healthier meals and snacks.

I stay away from fried foods and we have been parking farther away from stores, the beach, hiking trails, etc.

I like to have some healthy choice or other frozen diet meals on hand and also a  roasted chicken which we use for sandwiches, stir fries, or a quick snack. I grow several veggies and all kinds of herbs here at the house.

I like to have exercise routines, so walking every morning on the beach is a delightful habit for me.

I have found ways to exercise that are erotic and not necessarily sexual. Bdsm play where I pull out the floggers, a single tail, or wrestle. These are all fun things I do to keep that body moving. I have been practicing fast 'take-downs' with rope and that takes plenty of energy.

I have been thinking of putting my sub in a dancing class. I love to dance and he thinks he has two left feet. Dancing is one of my top three favorites for staying in shape.

Best of luck and it would be nice to see the progress you make over the summer.

ME






abcbsex -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/17/2008 9:16:39 AM)

Well, good news... I found the perfect lunch for us that costs the same as going out for fast food but is probably ten times healthier...

There's a Kroger grocery store nearby, so we can walk to it. Once there we get a turkey sandwich, bananas, arizona green tea and baked lays... feels so much better than eating burger king and feeling weighed down by all the grease.



earthycouple -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/17/2008 7:01:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSybella

You can request that he set up an exercise schedule and then faithfully ahere yourself to it. For example, when "excercise time" arrives, you can present yourself to him, with your exercise clothing and shoes on. Then, politely say, "I'm ready, as ordered, Sir." Or, something along those lines. ;) He'll come to expect that you'll be there and will likely anticipate that expectation...which in turn, should motivate him.

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



I LOVE this.  I'm on the side of wanting to be motivated more.  e01n wants to do whatever he can to help, but never quite knows how to go about it.  This is perfect. 



GoddessTeaze -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/18/2008 10:58:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: d1ll1gaf

For something like this you can help him simply by making it easier to do. He said with a huge pint in his hand LOLOL

I wish you goodluck  abcdsex.
With the look at your pic together,
Im sure you'll get there!

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`



MistressSybella -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/18/2008 3:14:01 PM)

Thank you for the kudos Jenny and earthycouple. :)

You don't know how many married men have approached me over the years. I refuse to play with a man who wants to cheat on his wife so instead I try to encourage him to stimulate more dominance out of his wife.  There are so many ways a submissive can motivate and train their dominant. I know that sounds backwards but when you're dealing with a kinky man and a vanilla wife, you have to start somewhere. And when there is love involved, a smart submissive CAN train their dominant. LOL!

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



katie978 -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/18/2008 5:23:13 PM)

   Help him by doing all the really hard stuff. Get rid of the treats and make sure there's healthy stuff at the house instead. Cook delicious healthy meals: if you're used to ordering pizza every time you're together, go out of your way to cook something fresh. He'll be so excited to get a home-cooked meal, he'll barely notice it's healthier.

  Also, agree to do any exercise he does: naked. I imagine that'd be great inspiration.



N4SDChastity -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/18/2008 5:32:31 PM)

    I was going to suggest purchasing a couple of "Naked-Yoga," and/or "Naked-TaiChi" DVDs, but, since you mentioned you do not have a TV that would be pointless...  Does anybody know if they still print these things I used to get information from, back in the day, called books?

...anyone?



leadership527 -> RE: Helping a Dominant Lose Weight (without sounding rude) (6/18/2008 7:34:54 PM)

what worked for me was making my girl lose weight.  Fundamentally, I'm a believer in the statement, "Real leaders lead from the front, not the rear."  So, there was no way I was going to tell my girl to get on the elliptical trainer, deal with diet, etc. without being willing to do it myself.  It ended up being a way cool thing for both of us... YMMV



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