Elisabella
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ORIGINAL: barelynangel Hi elisabella, Well that is the concept of Gorean slavery many miss especially when they choose to act like a Gorean slave without being one to a Man -- Gorean slavery is a status based on the actuality of being a woman is to a Man. IF you are owned as a slave to a Gorean Man, you are automatically less than anyone who is Free. A slave of a Gorean Man is not obliged to do anything, she is required to do anything. There is a difference in mindset that you are missing with regard to how a Gorean Man holds his women in slavery. The mindset creates a perception -- not just of her view of herself to him, but herself as to others who are Free and herself to others who are slave. Its why a woman who seems so subservient to Free can turn around and take authority and demand of other slaves. Perception. Its how the see the Free in cncept to them as a slave to a Gorean Man, not how they view the individuals as Free, angel *nods* I understand in theory, I suppose. It's just not something I *feel* inside, you know? I tend to judge people on an individual basis and 'free' and 'slave' are relative to me. For example, a free person might see my collar and think 'slave' - but I see her cigarette and think "please, I've beaten cigarettes *and* heroin, don't talk to *me* about freedom." I also believe that a woman is happiest in a natural role of being submissive to her man. Not "a" submissive in the BDSM sense but more like in a supporting role. Combined with the fact that I support monogamous relationships, that leads me to believe that the most important choice a woman makes is the man she commits to. That is whose side she will stand by. I could not be with a man I couldn't support, stand up for, and believe in. And that's also why I couldn't serve a stranger. I have to ask myself - who is this person? If I take the supporting role, his beliefs will reflect on me. His actions are actions I must support. Can I honestly say I want to do this? If not, I don't kneel to that man. And there's no obligation between us. If I do kneel, I accept the obligation to support him, to celebrate his victories (even if they clash with my values) and mend his failures (even if I think it was a stupid thing to have done in the first place) because we're a team. With that mindset, it's hard for me to understand kneeling to a man you don't know anything about besides his 'free' status. Not all free men are good men. I choose to serve only one man because my servitude is absolute. If I served any free man, I might eventually be ordered to do something that conflicted with my own morality. Thank you for your explanation though :) I can see how it works for those who fully internalize the Gorean paradigm. In fact I doubt the Gorean paradigm would work so well if that weren't the case.
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