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Reigna -> RE: Submissive capability. Would it interest you to hear about it? (6/18/2008 6:22:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
Like any other courtship, it's a matter of finding out about someone as you get to know them. Miss Manners said something about courtship that is germane here, that it's better to be a little modest and really wow someone as more and more great things about you unfold than to put it out there and remove the (erotic) tension. I don't think there's a formulaic way to get across one's competencies.
Miss Manners is wise in all things. And as undergroundsea points out downthread, it is true of relationships in general that it's better to be a little modest initially and then progressively wow someone. I'd also point out that this applies not only in the s-->D direction, but also in the D-->s direction. I mean that it is pure pleasure to inspire such a statement as, "Mistress, you told me that you could do this, but I had no idea how good at it you are."
One other thing. Perhaps I set the bar too low, but I've never screened submissives on the basis of skill sets. I love to fantasize about owning a service sub who will do everything including the dishes, but in reality I'm much more concerned with a submissive's emotional makeup than whether he can reroof my house or serve a perfect cup of tea. If I want or need something done, I'll see that my submissive learns to do it, or pay to have the thing done, or otherwise make arrangments to get what I need. But I cannot teach or buy the emotional and psychological characteristics I look for.
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